to think my friend should not be marrying a convicted criminal in an American jail ?

(78 Posts)
kormachameleon Wed 01-Jun-16 21:44:55

Just that really
My friend has 'fallen in love' with a prisoner in an American jail

They are planning to get married when he is released
She has young children and I think she is fucking stupid for want of a better description

He has tattoos on his face fgs
How can I talk her out of it ?

squoosh Wed 01-Jun-16 21:47:00

R u jellus?

Hodooooooooor Wed 01-Jun-16 21:47:12

You can't. She's a complete twat and there is no reasoning with stupid.

BrianCoxReborn Wed 01-Jun-16 21:47:56

Buy her some old Take a Break mags, they're full of similar stories.

SweetieDrops Wed 01-Jun-16 21:48:04

What is he in for?

squoosh Wed 01-Jun-16 21:48:19

To be honest if she's in the UK and he's in the US there's no way either would get the necessary visa to live in the other's country.

nancy75 Wed 01-Jun-16 21:48:21

If they do marry how would they live together, I don't think just being married gets you a visa to either country?

SquinkiesRule Wed 01-Jun-16 21:48:30

Not a lot you can do, she sounds like she's one of those weird, jail junkies. Why she'd want to marry someone she only knows from letters and email. She's asking for trouble.

LagunaBubbles Wed 01-Jun-16 21:48:54

You can't talk her out of it, bad idea or not she's a grown adult and can make her own decisions.

Chillyegg Wed 01-Jun-16 21:49:19

Oh God how did they er "meet"?
How long does she have to wait untill he's out? Also what's he in for?

PerpendicularVincent Wed 01-Jun-16 21:49:46

I think it demonstrates atrocious judgement. All you can do is be there for her when it all goes tits up.

What are the tattoos like?

TheDuchessOfArbroathsHat Wed 01-Jun-16 21:50:10

It won't happen but if it does surely there are safeguarding issues for her kids? What does her ex/the children's father have to say?

Chillyegg Wed 01-Jun-16 21:51:41

....also depending what he's in for she could be running a risk for ss involvement in her life. That is if they get visas sorted but I doubt with a criminal record he'd go very far getting into the UK permanently. In nor sure about her chances

squoosh Wed 01-Jun-16 21:52:08

Tell her that her romantic vision of sitting astride his tattooed face is better left as a beautiful fantasy. And then point her in the direction of a nice steady man from the lawn bowling club.

Alisvolatpropiis Wed 01-Jun-16 21:52:09

She is clearly extremely stupid.

KC225 Wed 01-Jun-16 21:52:09

BRIANCOX

That is excellent advise. Take a Break magazines haha

Nataleejah Wed 01-Jun-16 21:54:07

Depends what did he do

HappiestMummyAlive Wed 01-Jun-16 21:54:37

How did she meet him? PrisonPenPals? He is probably doing a life sentence for homicide (And life means life in the US)

PerpendicularVincent Wed 01-Jun-16 21:55:32

Ewww squoosh grin

Has she had bad relationships in the past OP? She may like the security of knowing where is is and that he won't be out bonking other women.

PortiaCastis Wed 01-Jun-16 21:56:07

Did you watch Happy Valley?

DuvetDayEveryday Wed 01-Jun-16 22:00:42

Well it takes all sorts.

kormachameleon Wed 01-Jun-16 22:00:41

To answer some of the questions
Sqoosh - Erm no definitely not jealous

Id rather not say what he is in for in case it is too identifying

When asked about her plans she just says he will come to her to live in the UK eventually if he gets released

Past relationships have been interesting. She seems to have a very blasé attitude towards it all

Happy valley - never seen it why ?

BrianCoxReborn Wed 01-Jun-16 22:01:07

See also: That's Life and Pick Me Up.

I read them in doctor's waiting rooms honest

DuvetDayEveryday Wed 01-Jun-16 22:02:04

Oh god I love Chav Mag Thursday. Tell her they pay really well.

squoosh Wed 01-Jun-16 22:03:11

she just says he will come to her to live in the UK eventually if he gets released

Not a chance of that happening.

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