I'm getting married in about 2 months time. I was adamant that I didn't want to change my name. Feminist in me isnt wild about the idea and none in the women in my family have ever taken their husband's names. Plus I am doing a PhD and have already published: if I embark on an academic career your name carries significance and most female academics I know have kept their maiden names.
However as time has gone on I would quite like to have the option to choose, flit between them for different purposes. For instance, I think if we one day have children, I want them to take his name and I'd like us all to be the X family. I like the idea of being Mr and Mrs X and couldn't be comfortable calling myself Mrs Coralpig as that's like being married to my dad. Silly I know.
I know plenty of women use their maiden name professionally and their husbands name personally but I want to be able to be more flexible than that. To call myself what I want when I want... Is that unreasonable?
I know your passport lets you a have a line saying 'the holder is also known as....' But I've called the DVLA and the driving licence doesn't allow that. Am I giving myself too much of a nightmare and should I just choose?
If it helps- they're both really really different names. I prefer the sound of my husbands but not enough to take it if that makes sense. Hyphenation and double barrelling sounds horrific- wouldn't work nor would I want it.
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coralpig · 31/05/2016 17:40
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