To think that young people will show consideration and respect. Should I just lighten up?

(10 Posts)
linglingb Mon 30-May-16 22:07:45

So our park trip today involved me grumbling at some young teenagers, just as I did when I last went to soft play, and in another park visit last week. Today my 4 year old was on a little bouncy ride-on when 3 teens, who had been jumping up and down on a climbing frame shouting swear words because it was HILARIOUS, piled over and shoved her off, resulting in my daughter running over sobbing and asking to go home. I suggested they should have some consideration for the small children in the park which resulted in much sniggering and heckling for the rest of our time there. Admittedly I could have just left it instead of asking if they thought it was funny to make a 4 year old cry and suggesting they need to show some respect!! Last soft play I shouted at some teens to get out of the baby sensory area as they were bashing into each other and rebounding near my 9 month old and another crawler. On the walk to preschool the other day I had to suggest that somebody in the group needed to make way on the pavement rather than us having to walk on a busy road. I'm so fed up of scolding kids! I was a teenager once and I think I was considerate and respectful (plus I was just hanging in the woods getting stoned and snogging boys 😏). Aibu to expect teenagers to show consideration? I am mortified to think that my own girls will one day behave like that in a teenage group situation.

FourEyesGood Mon 30-May-16 22:12:56

You know how some adults are lovely and some are utter wankers? It works the same with teenagers. Sorry you've encountered so many vile ones recently, but honestly, most of them are absolutely fine.

Catzpyjamas Mon 30-May-16 22:22:10

YANBU that the behaviour in all your examples is rude and inconsiderate. However, it is not because they're teens. It's just rude people.
A woman almost shoved DD (8) out of the way in Argos today while she was looking up a toy on a screen. I was queuing up so couldn't stop it happening but called over to ask if DD had finished with the screen and could see her lip quivering. Poor wee thing thought she had done something wrong.
<I may have been a bit loudly PA about some adults not setting a good example>

linglingb Mon 30-May-16 22:23:43

True. Enough said then! Thanks!

linglingb Mon 30-May-16 22:27:57

Admittedly I am that woman who shouts "you're welcome" when people don't say thank you...

Catzpyjamas Mon 30-May-16 22:33:34

I do that too occasionally blush

Kitsandkids Mon 30-May-16 22:46:08

Some teenagers are awful, yes. And what is it with them hanging around play parks?? When I was a teenager it was 'totally sad' to hang around a play park and we wouldn't be seen dead there unless we were babysitting. Our local play park constantly has teenagers in it swearing and sometimes drinking and smoking. I wish I was brave enough to say something to them when they swear but so far my two have been pretty oblivious to it, or just ignore it.

On the flip side though there is an absolutely lovely little group of girls who are about 13ish who are still 'young' for their age and have great games in the park that they always let my 7 and 8 year olds join in with. They are just such lovely girls. We've seen them quite a bit over the past 6 months and they speak so nicely to my children I have been seriously considering writing to their school about how lovely they are!

pieceofpurplesky Tue 31-May-16 08:15:00

Teens in a soft play area? How does that happen? Where they with parents?
Most teenagers are great, like any group of people there are some horrible ones.

branofthemist Tue 31-May-16 08:21:56

You need to work on your hard stare. grin

There is a soft play near us that's massive and allows kids up to 16. There is a part where there are guns to shoot foam balls at eachother and some kids about 14-16 were ganging up on my four year old. He came and told me. I went down and asked them if they proud they were able to gang up on and upset a four year old. They ran off to their mum and dad. Their mum and dad came marching over. I stared at them as they approached and they turn right round and walked off when they got about 6 feet from the table. Dh says my stern face is excellent for these situations, it works on chuggers too. grin

But honestly op is not teens. Some people are knob heads. Some people, when their shitty behaviour has been pointed out, act even shittier because they don't know what else to do.

Work on your stern face. It really helps.

PicInAttic Tue 31-May-16 13:13:01

Kits and kids
Please do let the school know! We're rarely told when our children behave brilliantly outside of school but it would be lovely to hear.

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