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AIBU?

To think my colleague is a complete back stabbing bitch?

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Karlakitten1 · 30/05/2016 21:31

Currently coming towards the end of my maternity leave and was called in to a meeting...I thought it was to answer my questions about coming back to work and some changes that have been made. Seems I was wrong...a colleague I thought I could trust, who I basically trained and provided work for (teaching, I planned lessons etc for her to use me being HOD). I had been told about some changes by her, but also asked to go in a moderate work - before maternity I did say to work that I would do this. Turns out they want it for free, no pay or KIT day etc. I told my colleague about the KIT day and I would still come in if it could be done like that, so I could get childcare and concentrate on the task...still a no from the big boss. My colleague has shown texts between us that I assumed were private. I had a bit of a moan in the texts but nothing really awful. Big boss has gone bonkers and has told me I'm not a team player etc. Other things were said that also weren't nice, like me leaving things in a mess ( the colleague was supposed to contact another HOD at a partner school for moderation of one of the subjects or for any help she needed...no contact has been made). I am so pissed off right now. There have been other accusations thrown around which I have not said...I feel like my reputation is ruined and I now trust no one at work at all). My HOF has said to just drop it all and to just work hard and prove myself when I return. Not a happy bunny at all!

Big boss also said if I want to play by the book, she can do it that way too and make me come back full time and take my TLR, and if my DD is ill she won't be giving me any time off to look after her. Think I 'm looking for a new job when jobs start coming up again later in the year.

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Scarydinosaurs · 30/05/2016 21:37

What a fucking joke. I would be FUMING.

Union?

Leave the school ASAP. Clearly morally corrupt.

icy121 · 30/05/2016 21:39

Find an HR lawyer and get advice & take from there. Don't mess about with unions, get a proper HR lawyer to advise what to do next and put the fucking shitters up them.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 30/05/2016 21:40

Clearly the people you work with are more immature than the children you teach.

Look for another job and fast.

ThisIsNotARealAvo · 30/05/2016 21:42

Leave the school. There are so many jobs and not enough good teachers!

Paintedhandprints · 30/05/2016 21:42

Sounds like they are finding excuses to get rid of you.

Keep all correspondence.

RaeSkywalker · 30/05/2016 21:43

I'd start looking for another job.

It must be awful, I'm so sorry

greathat · 30/05/2016 21:44

My school were terrible when I went back after maternity. Leave, do supply, find another job. Its not worth it. There are a lot of schools looking and a big demand for supply

Smartiepants79 · 30/05/2016 21:49

I'm not sure I really understand all of what you've written.
As a teacher I wasn't aware of being paid for time spent at school getting ready for returning to work but I work in primary and would just see it as part of the job I'm being paid a yearly salary for. I don't get paid extra for any extra time I give to school. Not sure if large secondaries work differently.
As for the sharing of private conversations that is very poor and unprofessional. If I was her boss I'd be watching her very carefully. She can't be trusted at all. Your boss also sounds mean.
I would contact the union to make sure it's dealt with properly but I agree you should start looking around for an alternative job. You'll never feel comfortable there again.

Gabilan · 30/05/2016 21:51

Re the texts, she is out of order. But where work is concerned, never leave a written evidence of trail of anything that can't be sent on or seen by your boss.

shazzarooney999 · 30/05/2016 21:57

That is disgusting and pathetic, what is it with people??? theres always one person thats out there to hang you when youve done nothing but your best, this woman is obviously just a back stabbing witch. honestly ive been there where something totally innocent has been said and its totally been twisted round to make it look like something else by someone that loves shit stirring and wanted to climb up the ladder, but i belive in karma and one day it will bite her on the ass.

Karlakitten1 · 30/05/2016 22:10

Smartie...the moderation I was asked to do was in March and things have just carried on since then. Therefore I expected it to be a KIT day. I'm going in over the next few weeks to get myself ready...not going to give them anything to pull me up on.

I did think this "lady" was a trusted friend, after all she has been through with them trying to get rid of her (brink of procedures against her). I feel like maybe they pulled her up and she brought my name up to try and cover for her not doing what she was supposed to.

Big boss said it as a threat...she said she doesn't want to but could as she has apparently contacted unions and they said she can retract a contract I signed for part time and also can take my TLR. At the ebd she said she needes to tell me all about the texts and my attitude and my lack of teamwork, and to now forget it and enjoy the rest of my ML!

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Karlakitten1 · 30/05/2016 22:14

I will add that the "lady"in question is leaving so I won't have to work with her again. I would like to clear my name and show them I'm not what they think I am (I bloody work hard and get good results ). I do feel like I'm on a hitlist now though.

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Mouikey · 30/05/2016 23:04

Assuming you are in the union, go talk to one of your stewards. They can give you some peace of mind and advise on courses of action. I know another has said to go straight to a HR lawyer but you pay Union subs for this advice and they can get lawyers involved at no cost to you (again a benefit of being in the union). Keep a record of what was said by who and when and also ask for a transcript of the meeting (or minutes) from the boss (I bet you don't get them!). Sadly when you go back they can require you to work full time if there is no business case, check your flexible working policy and put a strong case together if that is what you are after - again get advice. Sadly if not in the union it is unlikely they will be able to help as there are initial periods (generally 4 weeks) where they cannot help on existing issues - that doesn't make much sense sorry!

FasterThanASnakeAndAMongoose · 30/05/2016 23:43

No real advice but just wanted to say that YANBU. I feel very bad for you. This is the last thing you need when you're thinking about going back to work after mat leave.

I'm a teacher and currently on my second mat leave. The moderation day should absolutely be a KIT day, and you should be paid your normal working daily rate for it. This may mean you don't get statutory mat pay for that week, depending on what your rate is and where on the scale you are. I can't remember how it worked.

I think you can take up to 6 KIT days, all paid. I visited with my baby a couple of times last time, but that was a social thing and I had an informal chat with my headteacher. Days I was working and arranged childcare, I was paid. That's the rule. They must be breaking the law surely?

Good luck OP

AntiHop · 30/05/2016 23:49

What's TLR?

Gide · 30/05/2016 23:50

What's a KIT day?

Contact your Union re being told you're not a team player no that she can withdraw your TLR. Unless it's a TLR 3, no, she can't, plus governors would have to be in agreement. TLRs 1&2 are protected for three years if the school decides they no longer need that person to have responsibility, so I feel the person is talking shit. Is the one leaving the one who has been a bitch or is it someone higher up? What has your HOF said?

Coming in to catch up would be treated as normal in most schools, you wouldn't get paid. If you offered to moderate whilst on mat leave, you can't expect them to pay you. I marked all exams while off sick, I didn't expect anything for it.

redgoat · 30/05/2016 23:55

Teaching and Learning Responsibility. It's an extra payment for teachers who have an extra responsibility such as head of department, key stage etc.

They sound vile. Get in touch with your union, even if it's so that there is a record for you. X

FasterThanASnakeAndAMongoose · 31/05/2016 05:51

KIT = Keeping In Touch. It's standard to be paid your daily rate for KIT days.

You don't have to take any, never mind all 6, but you'd be unwise not to.

Of course she should be paid for what effectively are normal working days.

FasterThanASnakeAndAMongoose · 31/05/2016 05:53

Gide you were presumably being paid while you were off sick?

icklekid · 31/05/2016 06:00

Shocking behaviour by the school. You are absolutely right to expect to be paid for you working a KIT day. I'm just pleased your 'friend' won't be there. I would go backbecause part time jobs aren't the easiest to get however keep a look out to see what else is avaliable just in case! Hope it doesn't spoil the rest of your mat leave

Karlakitten1 · 31/05/2016 08:01

I did offer...but I did assume they would pay it as a KIT day, but they don't do them where I work anymore they said. It's the woman who I planned everything for and who showed the texts that is leaving. Bit of a joke really, I was a bit put out at having to supply a years worth of lessons for her when she taught it anyway. At previous schools I have found that you are given a deadline/end point, the unit is then your responsibility - none of this being given all the resources pre planned and ready to be used. I was given extra time to do this...but then was given planning for another subject nothing to do with me 2 weeks before I left, which I wasn't going to even be using at all. It was shared between a few of us in the department, but there were around 8 lessons to plan by myself, which I did moan about. That might be where the lack of team effort etc came from as well...but I really didn't think it was fair to pile it on before I left. They knew I was struggling to get it done being heavily pregnant but then I had to do them anyway.

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Foxyloxy1plus1 · 31/05/2016 09:20

Sorry, but this is the way it is in teaching these days. Any excuse for 'capability'. You've learned a valuable lesson the hard way. Don't trust anyone- and how sad it should be like that. I'd always thought that it was useful and helpful to mull over things at the end of the day and yes, have a bit of a moan sometimes. But actually, it comes back to bite you as you've found out.

Go back, suck it up, do your best and look for another job.

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miraclebabyplease · 31/05/2016 09:44

Check with hr about if they can retract a signed contract. I didn't think they could.

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