Today we were due to meet up with a friend, but plans got rearranged due to planned event in our area being rubbish and so I ended up asking her to come to us - DH was present for the extension of this invite and was fine with it.
We met friend at our house (we were out at time of inviting) and I hastily hoovered the most dreadful part of the carpet (all of 1 minute). Bear in mind our house does need its weekly clean, which was roughly scheduled for us to do today. Friend's son frolicked with our DC, while I flapped about seeing to drinks/removal of allergy triggers (he has newly diagnosed allergies). DH went off to clean the bathroom and toilet, which took some time and involved leaving doors to restricted areas open for the children to go through and finally emerged to do a bit of light dusting while friend and I sat there with our tea. At my request, he finally stopped cleaning.
My complaint is that if I visited someone unexpectedly and they flitted around me cleaning, I would feel guilty and like I was a bother. Friend was appreciative of the last-minute invite and I didn't want her to feel in the way, so wished DH would leave the cleaning to a decent minimum while she was here. Upon later interrogation enquiry, he completely refutes that he may have seemed weird and keeps insisting 'but it needed doing'.
He doesn't think it's a bit rude to persist in cleaning your home when you have a guest. I think that once the minimum is done (pants in laundry, toilet clear, no obvious health hazards) you should attend to tea and socialising instead.
Is either of us BU?
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....to think that doing a lot of cleaning when you have an unexpected guest is a bit weird?
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LaContessaDiPlump · 30/05/2016 16:20
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