Aibu to return a gift if I don't like it

(17 Posts)
Alfiemoon1 Sat 28-May-16 23:30:10

Don't want to sound ungrateful but dh is notoriously bad at choosing presents. I mean really bad I get car mats for Christmas a Katie price book for my birthday ? I have never shown any interest in her ? Last year he bought me a blue Pandora my bracelet is pink so I swapped it and he moaned. It's my birthday tomorrow and Dh is already bitching I've kept the receipt for your present as u will exchange it pfft I never moan about the rubbish stuff he buys me i put on a big happy face for the sake of the kids when inside I am thinking wtf how can u possibly think I would want that lol. But as I exchanged my Pandora bead 5 months ago for one that matched my bracelet he's already being a pain making snide comments that obviously i won't like what he's got me. Was I wrong to exchange it ?

ijustwannadance Sat 28-May-16 23:34:15

What's the point of keeping something you don't like/want/need? Waste of money.

NewNameNotTheSame Sat 28-May-16 23:34:55

This would actually seriously piss me off. Why does he keep doing it? If he knows he has form for buying shit presents, and is so convinced that this latest one is so bad that you'll return it then why get it? Does he not know what you like? Does he just not care? confused.

Why not just ask for pointers, or even give you the cash? I'm the least materialistic person I know but I would much rather receive nothing than a present that smacks of "I couldn't be arsed putting some effort into this", repeatedly.

Mildred007 Sat 28-May-16 23:37:48

Personally I would've done too - I think if someone has spent their money on something for you and you don't like it it would be a shame to not wear it or waste it because you don't like it. YANBU. I can understand your husband feeling a little hurt but surely it's better that you have something you like. I really hope he's got you something you like this year though as can imagine how he'll be (mine would probably be the same ha). Needs to stop with the snide comments though. Happy birthday for tomorrow x

NightWanderer Sat 28-May-16 23:53:16

Why don't you just tell him what you want? Or set up an Amazon wish list or something?

I always just ask people what they'd like for their birthday. Or I suggest something to them and ask if they'd like it. It really isn't a big deal.

Alfiemoon1 Sun 29-May-16 00:06:35

i drop hints of what i would like and to me it's more about the kids giving me a present so they learn to give to others and I have graciously received many a shit gift but it's the snidely comments tonight I can't be doing with I exchanged a bead 5 months ago so it matched my obviously pink bracelet so why is he being a pain in the arse tonight about it. I could totally flip at him that he puts no thought into anything I only get Mother's Day presents because my sister buys them for me I am not his mum apparently and the fact that he has probably spent more on beer this week as he's off work than on my present but I won't like I said it's more about the kids helping me open my presents and learning to give to others but he's ruining it all before its my birthday for no reason

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Sun 29-May-16 01:04:19

Mildred I totally disagree. It's nice to buy presents but at the end of the day, the person you're giving it to has to live with it. If you get the wrong thing or whatever (like the OPs Pandora bracelet) then it's a waste of money.

I would much rather someone tell me honestly (OK, maybe not
100% honest but tactfully at least!) that they like it but would they mind if I change it for something I love?

My DH is also bad at gifts but he does actually try. He just has very different tastes to me.

EttaJ Sun 29-May-16 02:44:02

You're definitely not being unreasonable. I swear my MIL used to buy me crap gifts just to annoy me . She'd always say I've got the receipt in case you hate it which I usually did . Always things she would know I wouldn't like but she has got better over the years.

My husband is usually pretty great choosing gifts but I wouldn't hesistate to take something back if I didn't like it , otherwise it's a waste of money.

Baconyum Sun 29-May-16 02:56:58

YANBU

This is about him not considering not thinking what you would like, frankly it sounds like little thought has gone into it at all.

How would he feel if you returned favour and got him something he didn't want?wink

MitzyLeFrouf Sun 29-May-16 03:20:30

I'd be properly pissed off if someone persisted in buying me things I didn't want and then acted like a huffy idiot when I tried to exchange them.

Why doesn't he just bloody ask what you'd like instead of buying stupid gifts? Car mats and a Katie Price book? Fuck that shit.

Mildred007 Sun 29-May-16 08:56:22

Felicity sorry I meant that I would change it otherwise it would be a waste of money. Just read my previous post and see it doesn't really make sense (it was late! ;) )

TroysMammy Sun 29-May-16 09:27:14

Happy Birthday. cake What did you get?

Alfiemoon1 Sun 29-May-16 09:30:17

So he hands me my birthday presents this morning and says I know u won't like them gggrrr. That comment has put me in a worse mood than getting naff presents gggrrr.

Alfiemoon1 Sun 29-May-16 09:38:21

He hasn't done to bad this year 2 lush bath bombs a cheap bunch of flowers and some sunglasses that my daughter chose for my holiday I can blame her for those they are huge but probably trendy but I have a really thin long face so they look ridiculous lol. Not great but better than car mats lol X

Nydj Sun 29-May-16 09:42:35

Happy Birthday! cake brew flowers chocolate

Alfiemoon1 Sun 29-May-16 09:44:48

I am not even going to mention swapping the sunglasses just going to go to top shop and do it he will have forgotten what they look like by the time we go on holiday lol.

LadyLayLay Sun 29-May-16 10:16:35

My ex 'MIL' got me a key ring for my 21st. I'd been with my ex for almost 2.5 years by that point. Some people are just really crappy at gifts. hmm

The worst part was that I had to walk all the way to the collection office to sign for it.

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