Let me preface by saying I have a great relationship with the MiL- she's lovely and whilst she's no angel (has to be centre of attention, likes the sound of her own voice, can be slightly manipulative to get her sons' attention) neither am I! So ultimately I think I'm lucky to have her as a MiL. My own parents live about 3h away so when they visit we have to arrange in advance when we have a free weekend so I know myself and DH have no plans and spend all our time with them. MiL lives about an hour away & for as long as DH and I have lived together she will call up DH and announce she is visiting - with like an hour's notice. And DH, without checking with me will agree and before I know it I have to drop everything as MiL is here- and she will come in the morning and stay until tea time. I don't mind her visiting, it's great to spend time with family but AIBU to ask for a bit more notice than an hour? If she came for just a bit of lunch or a catch up over coffee for a couple hours, that wouldn't be so bad, but the whole day? As well as a demanding job, I'm pregnant with my first kid and it's taking a lot out of me, so weekends are my chance to rest and pay attention to hobbies and errands that get totally neglected during the work week. I've suggested to DH that maybe we plan a bit more in advance when she comes for the day so I can make sure I get time to do the things I need, but all he hears is me saying 'I don't want to spend time with your Mum' which is not the case...!! So, AIBU in wanting a little bit more notice?
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