A little bit of backstory: X-H and I divorced 10 years ago, a year later, he moved away. We live in London and he moved to Leeds for work reasons etc, over the years he's had zero contact with our twins, DD and DS, now 12 years old, three years ago, he moved back to London and wanted to meet the twins and build a relationship with them, it worked out great with DS, they're amazingly close now but his relationship with DD is pretty much non existent.
DD can be a right little Madame, we had some real issues with her in her later primary school years and X-H's reappearance only worsened those issues, the Scouts movement have been a massive help in curbing DD's behaviour and challenging her to be better, signing her up as a Cub was the best decision ever.
She's now in Scouts and has been made a Sixer this year (it means she leads a small group) they have a massive district camp this weekend that we've known about for months, have paid for and as we're vegetarians, her scout leader has most likely done the food shop already with her in mind.
The issue is, that DD is a massive fan of Korean pop music, their are normally 2 Korean conventions that have a big concert outside of Asia once a year, these are aalways held in LA and New York/New Jersey, so no chance of DD going, but this year to celebrate Korean/French relations, their's going to be a convention in Paris on Thursday June the 2nd, without asking or even informing me, X-H went and bought convention tickets & Eurostar tickets for this Friday.
He has suprised DD this afternoon with the tickets and I've never seen her so excited, but going on Friday means she misses the camp, I've asked if they can go Monday instead and X-H has said, he's already booked tickets and hotel, it's too late to cancel and can't afford to buy new Eurostar tickets and hotel etc.
Well in that case, I've said she can't go, she already has plans etc and the blow out was not pretty.
This is pretty much a one time only thing, so I think I might be being too harsh, but I can't imagine calling her Scout Leader and letting him know she won't be there at such short notice.
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Cheeseinthetrap · 23/05/2016 19:54
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