My mum is 75, she has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and had many episodes over the past 30 years resulting in her being sectioned. Her disorder is managed well when she co-operates with the healthcare professionals who administer her medication and she lives an independent relatively active life otherwise. We just have to monitor her for relapse signals.
My 40 year old, single, sister moved in with my DM 2 years ago on a short term basis. She very quickly decided that actually this was going to be a permanent arrangement and has never left and has no intention of doing so. She works part time, lives completely rent free, does not contribute to the bills or household supplies like food, cleaning products etc.
Over the last year or so there have been many, many occasions where my sister has lost her temper with my DM to extreme lengths - shouting, swearing, screaming at the top of her voice, to such a point my DM has been frightened in her own home and is walking on egg shells around her.
These confrontations take place regularly and they are normally to do with minor things like DM leaves her cup in the living room, doesn't wash up her plates the minute she has finished eating or often things to do with my sisters cat - letting him out, letting him in, feeding him etc etc my DM is so scared to do anything wrong that effects the cat she chooses to not leave the house some days in case there is backlash from my sister.
Up until now my DM won't let me say anything to her because she doesn't want any "trouble" - but my other sister has told me today this is a classic abuser/abused relationship, where up until now DM knows it is wrong how she treats her but is scared to do anything about it.
This weekend she was really, abusive again to my mum, I have just found out now that DM is at my other sisters house and doesn't want to go home because she feels scared.
This weekend my sister who lives with my DM left some crumbs on the worktop on Saturday night as a "Test" to see if my DM would clean thoroughly enough and because the crumbs where still on the worktop Sunday morning my sister lost the plot with DM and was enraged like a wild banshie screaming, swearing and threatening my DM. She is depressed and stressed and too scared to stand up to her.
As she lives there rent free, has no tenancy agreement can I just change the locks and put her out of my DM house?
Should I report this to the police? I feel like this is domestic violence but I can't see the wood for the trees, can anyone help me? Or should it be social workers I talk to?
My DM looks close to a relapse in her MH today. Sorry this is long, any help appreciated.
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Onedayinthesun · 16/05/2016 17:45
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