Stag do and unreliable access to child

(8 Posts)
Jenjen15951 Sun 15-May-16 11:35:30

So oh and me are rocky at the minute, I'm staying at my dads and we have a 8 week old LG. oh sees her tues thurs sat alternate Sunday 5-7. Last weekend he didn't see lg because he was on a weekend away with his mum and dad sister and nephew which he didn't tell me about so i was at his house on Saturday when nobody was home calling him and he didn't answer so I just gave up and went home. Apparently he texted me but I didn't go through. me and lg weren't invited so he only saw her ties thurs last week. This week he's seen her tues thurs and Saturday but only for an hour as he was going out drinking and it's my Sunday this week. So I'm supposed to be going to a concert with his mum and his sister next Saturday - been booked for around a year. I asked him if he would have lg 5-9 and give her her bath/bedtime routine and I would collect her and walk her home in the Moses basket pram thing so we didn't disturb her (it's only 5 mins to walk around the corner so she wouldn't get cold). He's said he can't because he is off on a stag do (which we spoke about when I was prego I said I didn't want him to go as lg would be tiny and I didn't want to be alone in the house on my own all weekend - he went abroad for a total of over a month when I was pregnant on lads holidays and stags so it's my as if I'm stopping him having fun. He's never even taken me to the sea side never mind on holiday). Aibu to be annoyed that he booked to go regardless of my feelings. It's not as if it is his best mate either I've only met him a handful of times in the 4 years we have been together. I feel like he is putting his social life before lg. even though it was my Sunday this week he texted last night asking to see her this morning instead of going to football. I said yeah call me in the morning. I called him at 9.30 (were early risers usually up at 6.30/7 so was strange for him to leave it so late) and he said it will have to be later because he is busy - why specify morning then?!? I feel like a cow because I have plans this afternoon (a play date with another mum for a gossip) which I don't want cancel but he wants to see lg but he is messing me around! Aibu to just say no?

Foffyouwanker Sun 15-May-16 12:36:25

Yanbu! If he can't stick to the arrangements I would just reduce contact but I wouldn't be dropping everything for him.

Foffyouwanker Sun 15-May-16 12:38:12

Also this doesn't sound like the behaviour of a 'd'h. Exdh more like. Sorry to be blunt! He's not giving you or lo a second thought.

Creampastry Sun 15-May-16 12:42:02

Tell him to f€$> off!

elQuintoConyo Sun 15-May-16 17:51:31

What an immature dicksplat. I was exhausted just reading that. Time to get on with raising your daughter alone without relying on him for anything.

flowers

Janecc Sun 15-May-16 20:02:55

He sounds like an immature idiot and I wouldn't change my plans for him. I hope you had a nice play date.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Mon 16-May-16 06:12:32

Manchild. Dump.

Pseudo341 Mon 16-May-16 06:44:30

You and OH are not a bit rocky, you're over from the sounds of it. Don't wait around letting him treat you like this. Get on with your life with your little girl and let him come chasing if he wants a relationship with her. I'm sorry you're going through all this crap when you've only just become a mum.

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