to be in shock with this woman?

(153 Posts)
Feelingsolow12345 Sat 14-May-16 20:41:23

I was in a large toy retail store (not sure if you're allowed to name them if I am I'll disclose it) and was at the till paying for my sons toys and then the cashier went when's the baby due. my son was in the trolly right in front of her.

I do have a bit of horrible saggy stretched skin and a bit of baby weight still on me but I didn't know how to react beside shock and laugh.

what would have you done if it was you?

DeathByMascara Sat 14-May-16 20:43:04

Looked at the baby, very obviously, then looked back at her with a raised eyebrow. Or as close to a raised eyebrow as I can manage.

Serenitymummy Sat 14-May-16 20:44:13

I'd have said I wasn't preggo but thanks very much for ruining my weekend, you insensitive arsehole. Probably mouthing the 'arsehole' part so DS didn't hear. Then possibly asked for manager or emailed a complaint.

Mrsmorton Sat 14-May-16 20:44:30

Just called her out and said "I'm not pregnant, just fat. Thanks for pointing it out".

No point getting worked up about it, people say far more offensive things!!

NewNameNotTheSame Sat 14-May-16 20:44:50

I'd have patted my tummy, smiled and said "ohh not yet, I think I must be a couple of months behind you!"

In reality, I'd probably just mumble something about not being pregnant and cry in the car grin

dontpokethebear Sat 14-May-16 20:44:57

Given her the finger?
It happened to me, typically on a day when I'd looked in the mirror and thought 'Hell yeah! I look good'. angry

Feelingsolow12345 Sat 14-May-16 20:44:58

he was on one of those trollies where you put the car seat on. this big black create seat on top of a silver trolly. her response was I thought it easy part of the trolly.....hmm really

PPie10 Sat 14-May-16 20:45:08

Just said the baby is here and looked at him. Nothing to be so very shocked about. Maybe she genuinely thought you were pregnant and just making conversation.

Serenitymummy Sat 14-May-16 20:45:12

And to be honest as much as I'd like to think I'd be that assertive, if I managed it I would then probably sit in the car and cry. Are you ok?

JustLostTheGame Sat 14-May-16 20:45:17

I would probably have done the same as you OP. Shocked laugh and said, X weeks ago.

People are stupid. They need to flash a big warning up on billboards in every town saying "NEVER ask a woman when she is due"

WellErrr Sat 14-May-16 20:46:00

I would have said 'how should I know, it's your baby belly' whilst looking pointedly at her tummy.

But then I can be a twat.

Feelingsolow12345 Sat 14-May-16 20:46:34

I laughed it off in the shop but I got angry in the car with my nan. I was like am I really that fat?

WreckingBallsInsideMyHead Sat 14-May-16 20:47:36

And this is why you never refer to anyone being pregnant unless you know for a fact that they are!

DeathByMascara Sat 14-May-16 20:47:38

I have been asked on more than one occasion when the baby is due, before I ever even met dh, let alone had dc. I always just replied 'no, I'm just fat' and glared until they squirmed. I like to think they didn't make that mistake again.

Feelingsolow12345 Sat 14-May-16 20:48:03

I agree with 'you should never ask a lady if she's pregnant'. if my son wasn't right in her face I would have let her off haha

PurpleDaisies Sat 14-May-16 20:48:47

I'd have told them straight that it isn't an appropriate comment to make. My friend lost a baby but still looked pregnant. Three or four shop assistants said this sort of thing to her. Not a nice thing to have to deal with.

RandomMess Sat 14-May-16 20:49:54

TBH they are told they have to make conversation etc and she didn't engage her brain.

flowers sorry that you felt horrid about yourself, some of us are not blessed with the ability to get anything like our pre-baby bodies back sad

Feelingsolow12345 Sat 14-May-16 20:50:13

I'm sorry to hear that purple I bet she was heartbroken when she was asked that.

PurpleDaisies Sat 14-May-16 20:52:41

She was feeling-that's why these people need telling that it's not appropriate small talk to make.

Feelingsolow12345 Sat 14-May-16 20:53:03

I was lucky that the rest of my body except my boobs and stomach have gone back to normal.

I'm still in shock now. what if it was a medical condition why u had a tummy pft xD

Feelingsolow12345 Sat 14-May-16 20:54:12

normally I would have complained but was so took back.

I should have said "yeah 17 weeks ago"

leotwist Sat 14-May-16 20:54:48

Oh the delights of insensitive checkout comments! See my own very similar experience on MN thread Pregnancy/Plus Size Pregnancy. smile

LogicalThinking Sat 14-May-16 20:54:54

She didn't say it intentionally to offend or upset you, it was a genuine mistake.

It happened to me, I shrugged it off.

I also did it to another woman. She came to my house to buy my pushchair, she looked pregnant, I asked her when she was due, she said her baby was 4 months old. I apologised, she said it's ok.

PurpleDaisies Sat 14-May-16 20:56:47

She didn't say it intentionally to offend or upset you, it was a genuine mistake.

There is no earthy reason to comment on someone appearing to be pregnant if you don't know that they are. Especially if you're a random shop assistant and not even a friend.

Petal40 Sat 14-May-16 20:56:57

What a rude rude rude woman....I bet

you looked bloody good for having had a Babba and she was jealous and knew what she was saying as she could see the baby...women can be total bitches to each other

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