please help someone.
my son is 48.
he was given an excellent start in life, education and support.
before he even began to work, at 21, a divorced older woman became pregnant, and this was the beginning of events that have led to where he is today.
over the following 2 years he couldn't earn enough to support them, so she decided she was better off on benefits so she didn't "need" my son anymore.
Although he was needed to pay for expensive private education for his son, which she demanded, threatening to withhold access if he didn't or couldn't pay.
he did pay throughout his son's education, which left him in massive debts which he has to this day.
he was made redundant, and searched for suitable employment to continue paying, but was unable to manage to earn enough.
I supported him financially as much as I could, rent/car/clothes.
eventually with everything falling down around his ears, I paid for him to go abroad to live with his older sister, which he has done for the last four years.
but, this is my worry.
my son's visa has expired, and he needs to return home.
he expects to live with me (I am in my mid 70's), and support him.
he is penniless , still has debts, no prospects, no credit history to apply for rental accommodation, no car.
simply the clothes he stands up in.
I don't know what to do.
I haven't been in brilliant health, my husband had a heart attack last year.
the worry of what I can do to help is giving me sleepless nights.
what can I do?
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my son is 48, but totally lost
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dunnowhatsbest · 14/05/2016 15:17
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