Upset after doctors appointment

(9 Posts)
Badbadtromance Fri 13-May-16 14:55:31

I have to be a bit vague but here goes. Woke up this morning feeling v v low and as i have mh probs rang for go appointment. He has a reputation for being fantastic and v emphatic. I will admit i have lifelong mh and drug issues.
I told him I couldn't cope with either my drug addiction to opiates_ prescription ones or mh today and I had enough as been a hard week. He gave me a number to call so I could go on a waiting list for counselling and a prescription for more ads and made it clear he wanted me to leave. I thought maybe I got him at a bad moment but u could hear him laughing with the previous patient and he'd just had a fag. Mh not letting me think straight today but I felt so bad after wards I cried and have been upset all day. I am a poor,black sp. He is a middle class white male and I felt the distance between us very harshly. I feel so upset and I don't know why but it made me realise I am all alone and lonely but not sure if its my mh and I am imaging things. By the way I AM sorting my life out. Its a v small town and most who work there are related. I just don't know if iabu

BillSykesDog Fri 13-May-16 15:03:29

It won't have been anything personal, just time constraints and need to get on with things in a tight timescale. GPs aren't the greatest place to go when you feel like you need a sympathetic ear. You could try the SANE helpline, they open at 6pm:

www.sane.org.uk/what_we_do/support/helpline

Or maybe Samaritans, if you need to talk. And you've posted on here, so that's a start.

Gazelda Fri 13-May-16 15:04:14

I hope you're soon feeling a bit stronger. Life sounds a struggle for you at the moment.

Try not to take offence at your GP, nor take it personally in any way.he probably thought he was offering you the best and most appropriate support available to him at the moment. Maybe he was stretched time-wise. Maybe the person in the earlier appointment had shared some positive news after a difficult health problem? It wasn't a reflection on you.

If you feel this GP is generally a good support for you, then try not to dwell on this.

And please try not to think in this as a consequence of your differing backgrounds or colour. That isn't very respectful to him.

Have you called the number and collected your prescription?

I truly hope life is soon on the up for you flowers

GretchenBeckett Fri 13-May-16 15:09:22

Sorry you're having such a bad time.

When my mh has been bad I think my perceptions of other people is a bit distorted. GPs don't have nearly enough time with each patient and I doubt very much that he was thinking anything negative towards you at all.

I can highly recommend the SANE helpline. I've found them brilliant in the past.

marfisa Fri 13-May-16 15:17:35

Sorry, I also would have been upset in your position! When you're feeling fragile, it can be very upsetting to feel you've been brushed off.

For the opiates addiction, is there an NA (Narcotics Anonymous) group near you? They are a great organisation and can offer you lots of emotional/moral support. You don't have to be 'clean' to go.

Good luck and keep on taking good care of yourself and accessing all the help you can.

OurBlanche Fri 13-May-16 15:25:34

Don't let the drugs/MH rob you of his support. You said he has been great previously and he must have listened to you today as he didn't just pat you on the head and let you leave, he found you another avenue of accessing support.

You aren't at all unreasonable to feel upset, but you would be, if you let that feeling redefine your relationship with a GP you have previosuly got on well with.

Good luck finding more support that helps.

wheresthel1ght Fri 13-May-16 17:45:36

Sorry you are feeling so low! Sending you lots of hugs cakechocolateflowers

If the surgery was busy it was probably more a case of them squeezing you have in and not having the time to be as caring as you were expecting. I doubt it was meant to upset you.

I didn't find counselling very helpful but I do know lots of people who have found it invaluable. Definitely ring the number.

Is there anything you can pin point that has significantly effected you today?

Badbadtromance Fri 13-May-16 19:17:13

Thank you so much for all the advice and linkssmile

WheresMrMonkey Fri 13-May-16 19:26:33

Thinking of you x

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