online flirting with young man

(30 Posts)
tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:17:03

My friend is in her forties and frequently visits chat sites.
She has struck up a liason with a guy who claims to be 19.
They are doing a lot of flirting and it gets very rude at times I don't blame the lad but I think she is acting stupid for her age he is not from the uk aibu

EatShitDerek Tue 10-May-16 18:18:05

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TheFuckersBitingMe Tue 10-May-16 18:18:51

I don't understand the question. She's an adult, he's an adult. What filthy nothings they type to one another are nobody's business but their own.

tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:20:35

Do you think she should grow up she says he excites her

tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:22:18

but with a 19 year old she is degrading herself

Stratter5 Tue 10-May-16 18:24:13

Why is it anything to do with you?

Pinkheart5915 Tue 10-May-16 18:24:54

They are both adults, can do what they want.
If it excites her and makes her feel good why not? I bet he gets something out of it too wink

tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:24:59

she has a 16year old son would she like it if an older woman was saying rude stuff to him. 19year olds can be immature.

EatShitDerek Tue 10-May-16 18:25:03

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TheFuckersBitingMe Tue 10-May-16 18:25:31

Degrading herself how?

Personally I'm not a fan of telling others to grow up. I laughed when a kid farted loudly at school today so am probably unreliable with this sort of thing.

tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:27:06

because she talks about him constantly to me stratter and I am repulsed the things they are saying to each other.

tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:28:48

she claims it flatters her that he wants to flirt with her despite her age.

Pinkheart5915 Tue 10-May-16 18:29:15

Maybe you are repulsed by what they say, but that's YOUR view.

I've had some very raunchy messages exchanges with my DH over the years, it's just a bit of fun.

MiddleClassProblem Tue 10-May-16 18:29:17

Good for her, getting her perks. He's probably not 19 but if he is who cares?

Pinkheart5915 Tue 10-May-16 18:30:14

Her being flattered by his attention is fine IMO

MiddleClassProblem Tue 10-May-16 18:30:40

If you don't want to hear it, just say you don't like talking about things of that nature, it makes you uncomfortable. Look, handling it like a grown up, eh?

tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:31:40

I worry in case she gets into trouble what if he is really under 16

EatShitDerek Tue 10-May-16 18:32:58

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tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:33:24

she calls him her sweet heart and he flatters her by saying he likes the older woman.
She has a partner for gods sake.

tevion Tue 10-May-16 18:34:15

because online you don't know if people are who they say they are I am concerned for her

January87 Tue 10-May-16 18:35:48

How is she degrading herself? My only concern would be this guy is looking for money or a visa as you say he's not from the UK.

Pinkheart5915 Tue 10-May-16 18:36:04

Some men do like older women, that does not mean his under 16.
Yes people aren't always who they say they are online but they have not met and most people claim they are younger than they are not older

scrabbletile Tue 10-May-16 18:36:08

Maybe a warning for her about some of the scams out there - as it is overseas it could easily turn into "I need money for....." or "I will visit you if you send money...."

MiddleClassProblem Tue 10-May-16 18:36:15

If he's under 16 the conversation would show that he mislead her and she thought he was of age. Also they are not meeting

BeverlyGoldberg Tue 10-May-16 19:22:35

I think she runs the risk of being made to look a bit silly but consenting adults can chat all they want.

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