AIBU to think DP needs a break from us?

(4 Posts)
Nottryingtohaveitall Tue 10-May-16 17:29:57

I've been with DP for 7 years and we have a 2 year old DD. He has ups and downs with his mood which I support him through and can often see it off if I spot the warning signs early enough. I'm currently going through a period of low mood and am very irritable so I don't know if I'm being sensible about this. We've had a series of arguments the last couple of weeks and its ended where he's become a bit possessive and called me a liar and a cheat. For one I don't have enough time for myself never mind have the brain power to lie nor cheat. I know this is controlling behaviour so I don't need a lecture on that (we've discussed it between us) but he's admitted he's unhappy. He says he's OK at work then gets a mood as soon as he comes home. Am I BU if I ask him to go away for a bit to 'find himself' and figure out what he really wants whilst also giving me a bit of head space? Or am I just trying to find an easy solution to get away from conflict and should support him again?

Sparkletastic Tue 10-May-16 17:31:40

Sounds like a great plan. If home life is making you both unhappy then a trial separation may help you decide whether your relationship has a future.

Kungfupandaworksout16 Tue 10-May-16 17:41:29

Sometimes all it takes is a little space. Do it now while there's still time to get that spark back rather than wait 6 months and through all the arguments the love has gone

EveOnline2016 Tue 10-May-16 17:41:48

I hope it works out. Just hope he comes back if he does find himself again.

I have suffered from depression in the past and the old me is gone, I can't get her back and now found a way to be me in a different way of that makes sense.

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