I am really confused and do not know how to go about this and would appreciate any advice. I recently got back with my cousin sis after years of family fued between dad and his sister. We grew up together and were inseparable untill we were 13 (similar age). We immediately bonded and absolutely gelled together only as childhood friends do. She is in the States and we made plans to go over and stay for summer hols with DH and DCs. Another cousin who had been close to both sides throughout the family fued v v strongly advised me not to stay over especially with DCs (age 11 and 8), saying my cousin's husband (I have never met him) is an alcoholic, living in with someone nearby, the house environement v unhealthy for kids. This third coz said our coz knew and accepted all this (they trid for kids unsuccessfully, he loves kids, she feels guilty as she has medical issues and she still loves him). Me and DH decided to cancel the trip, as I trust my mutual coz, and I have heard from other sources too. I was v upset and worried for my coz as she has gone through a lot in life, so called her up and had an honest discussion about what our mutual coz said, I am there for her, she can come over etc. She is livid (I can understand) and says that it is all lies and her DH is perfect and there is nothing of the sort. She is angry as I did not trust her and cancelled the hol. DH and myself are normally v protective of the DCs and have no regrets of being safe than sorry. She refuses to talk to me and I don't know what to do. It was really nice to get back together and I miss her. And she has gone thru lots of challenges in life. If I keep apologising we will get back (but is it healthy given her home situ) or should I accept that I need to move on. Thanks for getting to the end of the thread.
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