To give out details about a friends private life?

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DailyFailEditingCunts Mon 09-May-16 02:15:45

Don't want to give out too much details as it's about a friend but long story short, she was contacted about 6 months ago by a company about giving some interviews and her life after being attacked and was offered private cousin lingerie in return. She allowed them to follow her round with a camera for a few days and another a few months later. She signed a contract so they had the rights to the video and they published it on TV last week. However they majorly edited what she said and I've being trying to explain what she said and stick up for her as there has been a lot of horrible things said.

Only now I'm worried I have overstepped the mark. But I've seen her come so far from it all and I don't want her to start declining again from someone saying these things to her face.

Oh and she still hasn't received the counselling.

peppercold Mon 09-May-16 02:20:27

trying to explain what to who?

DailyFailEditingCunts Mon 09-May-16 02:27:22

There's a lot of stuff being said on social media sites and a certain newspaper. Sorry about the lack of information, just worried about her. The program edited out everything she said about the attack and broadcast on a completely different show. So she's been edited to look quite bad. Another friends said I'm overstepping the mark but we haven't heard from her since Wednesday so can't get her view on it.

GarlicShake Mon 09-May-16 02:31:39

Oh, COUNSELLING! I was wondering why the hell she'd accept payment in lingerie blush

Pretty sure the correct answer that you should tell people the TV folks twisted her story and they're being unfair - without over-explaining. I can understand why you want to stick up for her, though.

What does she think of the show they put out?

She should definitely chase them up for the payment. If they don't come through, get advice from the CAB. Sounds like she's going to need some support!

shouldwestayorshouldwego Mon 09-May-16 02:34:52

Unfortunately this is what TV companies tend to do. I know people who were doing food programmes with obese children and the production company were encouraging the family when shopping to pile the trolley high and then the dietician to be shocked at a food cupboard with crisps tumbling out of it. There might be a regulatory body though who should makes sure she gets the counseling (the cousin lingerie auto correct confused me at first!). I would start with the company which broadcast the program, complain about the misrepresentation and the lack of follow up.

DailyFailEditingCunts Mon 09-May-16 02:41:41

Didn't notice I'd put lingerie. Oops although I bet her df wouldn't have minded. I haven't spoke to her since although we know she's ok though her df. I am worried about her but other friend has told me to ltb and that I'm sticking my nose in. She keeps to herself too much so won't say if something happens until it's to late. If she turns up to our group next week I'll try and find out if the counselling was written or verbal agreement.

DailyFailEditingCunts Mon 09-May-16 02:53:12

Also I'm not saying anything that she didn't say in an interview.

DailyFailEditingCunts Mon 09-May-16 11:18:35

According to her fiance she missed a doctor's appointment this morning saying she was ill. Should I go drag her up to go to the one group she does go to or leave her and risk her not going out till next wèk?

GarlicShake Mon 09-May-16 11:23:37

It's impossible to say without knowing the ins & outs of the situation. And it's probably best you don't write them on here!

Sounds like she's anxious/depressed. I'm not sure 'dragging' her to a group is the most helpful thing. How about just being kind? What's your relationship normally like?

DailyFailEditingCunts Mon 09-May-16 11:34:20

I've known her a long time and I've seen her depressed enough to try and kill herself. We've spoke before about ways I could help and she said that making sure she goes is a major point. Ime she's got a lot worse when she isolates herself as she gets in the habit of doing it. I've gone round before to get her to go and she's always much happier afterwards.

I honestly wish I could be there more but I struggle to with my own life. I'm worried if she doesn't go she won't next week either. She's made comments before which are along the lines of this group being the main thing to help her depression. I think she likes the way she can slip into the background and still be there IYSWIM.

GarlicShake Mon 09-May-16 11:55:06

OK, then it sounds like a good idea to do as you would normally do when she's down. Good luck!

DailyFailEditingCunts Mon 09-May-16 12:15:27

I'm going to go round about the time it would start then take her in half hour late as it's a drop in group so there's less people there after a while. We've done it before when she's had bad days and it helps. Just got to prepare her for the questions. After all she'll probably have a lot of attention on her this week.

Arfarfanarf Mon 09-May-16 12:55:20

You shouldnt give details. It's her information.
If she's just been stitched up like a kipper then the last thing she will want is her information being shared without her consent. She might feel worried or paranoid about how it is being presented.

In your shoes i would not give out her information i would just say how angry i was that the programme was edited in order to create a totally false picture and that you hope she takes action against them.

taxpayerwaste Mon 09-May-16 13:11:06

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Arfarfanarf Mon 09-May-16 13:27:08

Fuck me. How very dare she hope to get married for about £1,500 while on benefits! doesnt she know that money has to go on sky tv and fags?

I mean, seriously? "A waste of space"?

She can have the 1500 out of my taxes and I'll buy her a wedding cake too.
Your tax pennies can go to fill that pothole at the top of our lane.

If theres any left over from what it cost to educate you and provide health care and local services etc.

Waste of space. Bloody horrible.

ImNotThatGirl Mon 09-May-16 13:33:26

taxpayerwaste bet ya wouldn't say that in your normal username! Pathetic.

taxpayerwaste Mon 09-May-16 13:33:55

Why does she need to waste tax payers money on a wedding, all benefits sould be change from money to food and bill vouchers, no cash should be given over, pay for their needs not their wants.

if they want stuff they can get a job, look at her 21 and she can work but won't.

Arfarfanarf Mon 09-May-16 13:36:25

She and her fiance can spend it on whatever they want to. If they choose to live on beans and toast because they want to get married then that's their choice.

taxpayerwaste Mon 09-May-16 13:37:47

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LagunaBubbles Mon 09-May-16 13:38:56

What has your post got to do with the OP taxpayer?

fastdaytears Mon 09-May-16 13:40:45

Waste of space? Really?

I hadn't seen that story. How did you manage to find it (if it is her?)

This will blow over. In the meantime I think all you can do is be a friendly face. If that's the story then I can't honestly see why people are so worked up.

taxpayerwaste Mon 09-May-16 13:41:06

More then likely that's who she is on about, Only report about a reality TV show that people are commenting about this week in disgust at these people.

taxpayerwaste Mon 09-May-16 13:42:07

Fastdaytears

OP gave enough info to find the info and this is what is been taked about on facebook.

AliceInUnderpants Mon 09-May-16 13:42:45

Oh fuck off taxpayerwaste - you don't know why she isn't working.

fastdaytears Mon 09-May-16 13:42:50

Good detectiving! I had assumed Jeremy Kyle, though not many of those make it into the papers.

I wish I was as good as saving as they are.

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