Hi! First time poster here. Basically, I'm reaching the end of my tether with my DP and need some advice and/or maybe someone to tell me I'm BU for being so frustrated.
My DP and I have been living with his parents for 3 years. Its not too bad - we have our own section of the house so we have privacy but I'm desperate to have our own house. The point of this was to save money for our own place but about 2 years ago he quit his job (it was a horrible job and made him miserable) and started his own business on a whim. He had no savings prior to this (and has never worked full time so doesn't have a lot of life experience).
I work very hard but I'm getting nowhere financially. He contributes nothing. His business has been very slow starting (almost non-existant) and lives off money from his parents who he says he'll pay back. He does work hard when he has a project but they are few and far between. He doesn't even help me out by cleaning whilst I'm working.
I guess the reason I'm so annoyed is because before he quit his job we talked a lot about having kids the second we got our house. I am desperate to be a mother. I feel like we have taken 4000 steps back and I'm basically mothering him by cleaning on my days off and paying for all of our expenses. I also feel like the least supportive partner ever because he has recently started taking anti-anxiety meds and of course starting a business is bound to be difficult.
I have told him all of this lots before and he promises to find a part-time job and do more around the house but I've yet to see much proof other than the occasional load of washing being done (but only when I've totally run out of clothes).
AIBU to be so frustrated by this?! I don't want to leave him or anything drastic but feel like I'm stuck waiting for our life to start. Thanks in advance!
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outtostartafire · 08/05/2016 21:42
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