To be seething he got away with it *trigger warning*

[NotAnotherNameChangeAgain]

I'm so angry.
I probably shouldn't be posting for anonymits reasons but I don't care.
A few years ago I had to run away from my job as a Nanny having been witness to Dad Boss severely physically abusing his child. (Welt maresults, hand prints and bruises on child hours later) I had been working for the family for a while, whilst I suspected abuse before this had been the first time I'd have concrete proof.
I left immediately and called the police, who upon seeing the marks on the child for themselves arrested the Dad.
I have no heard from the family since that night and after being interviewed by the police (and the RSPCC for good measure) heard very little.
I heard that other staff members came forward, there were some reports of further physical abuse, sexual abuse and extensive verbal abuse. There are 3 children.
I heard that a social worker had been assigned to their case.

It took a long long time but I managed to put it mostly behind me. Confident that SS were on the case and that the mother could perhaps now escape with the kids. It took me a while to shake off the fear that the Dad (who is extremely wealthy) was going to send someone after me.

Since then I've been trying to get on with it and have been honest about the almost 2 year gap in my CV despite some parents at interview being less than supportive (1 parent told me I "overreacted" by calling the police and should have just talked to the parents)

I have just found out that the parents are together and have emigrated with their family to a mansion in an exotic location (I've been there. It's heaven). Despite photp evidence from myself and the arresting officers and numerous statements from a variety of witnesses - he got away with it.
He now lives with his children in paradise.

I loved those children with all my heart.
AIBU to be beside myself with anger?

[TheSparrowhawk]

YANBU. I don't know what else to say, I'm so sorry.

[Pisssssedofff]

It seems to happen a lot

[MammaTJ]

You did your best, it is others who failed them!

I don't think he will 'get away with it' though. The children will remember and make their own judgements and that can be harsher than prison!

YANBU!

[NotAnotherNameChangeAgain]

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp
Feel free to search me and read my previous threads. Not my first time posting, not my first time mentioning this. But thanks

[NotAnotherNameChangeAgain]

Sorry, I don't mean to be rude.
I'm so angry.
Not surprised. But angry

[Skittlesss]

That's so sad :( those poor children.

[OddBoots]

I think I remember you posting about this before quite some time ago. I am sorry to hear he has got away with it. Is the place they are living a place that would take child abuse seriously?

[PortiaCastis]

Dont really know what to say. Poor children how sad

[SnookieSnooks]

YANBU. It sounds like the Dad got around social services. Among my friends and family, there are a lot of bad experiences with social services. One of my friends (a grandparent) spent months begging social services to help her grandchildren and daughter. They ignored her and in the end the Dad beat up her daughter in front of the kids. They still ignored her.... In fact my DP is being taken to court by our local council due to the fact that social services have told lie after lie. eg claimed to have done stuff but have no documentary evidence.

[hobybabo]

Rspcc?

This is sad to read

[Griphook]

I remember you posting about this ages ago, just goes to show what money can buy! Poor children

[NotAnotherNameChangeAgain]

I think I did post about it around the time actually. Under a different name.
I was desperate for support back then.

I have little knowledge about SS in the country they're in. I'd post which it is but I'm not sure where I stand legally about posting too much info.

I'don't hope he gets his recompense via his children when they're older but I'm not so sure. He's a shower them in love (after he's laid into them) type

[LineyReborn]

Why would you have been interviewed by the RSPCC? And if that's a typo for NSPCC, same question really.

[NotAnotherNameChangeAgain]

I DO hope. Obviously!

[NotAnotherNameChangeAgain]

It was a charity protecting children. Another staff member contacted them so that there would be pressure coming from all sides.

[Pineapplemilkshake]

I presume you meant NSPCC. They don't interview people.

[Ringadingdingdong22]

Bloody hell that's awful. Those poor children. What a cunt. I'd be raging too.

[Oly5]

can you try the police,social services and NSPCC again?
maybe they can share info with the other country
bless you for trying to help those poor kids

[Lightbulbon]

If the child didn't corroborate the abuse there is nothing the police or ss can do.

It's likely the dad scared them into silence.

It's a real loophole in our system.

The kids will wise up to him when they are older though.

[LineyReborn]

Perhaps you can chase up the NSPCC. It's about time they did something.

[makingmiracles]

The nspcc don't actually do anything though afaik, they are simply a middleman. When abuse is reported all they do is report it to children services.

[ImperialBlether]

I've reported abuse to the NSPCC and had to outline my concerns. They passed it on to a social worker though I was never told the outcome. I wouldn't call it an interview, but they were thorough.

[ExtraHotLatteToGo]

I'd report them to the agencies where they live now.

I'd follow it up with the police here. I don't know what you're entitled to know, but something surely.

Poor kids 🙁

[BeYourselfUnlessUCanBeAUnicorn]

I remember this too. How awful he has been allowed to get away with this.

I don't understand how tbh. Several staff members said the same thing, sounds like there was a lot of different types of abuse, why we're the children not taken in to care!

Can you phone SS and ask? I would, out of concern, that you witnessed what was going on and are very concerned for their welfare not they are still with him and in another country.