To be annoyed that boyfriend was critical that I didn't have a "Le Creuset" pot for cooking?

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scrabbletile Sun 08-May-16 15:35:25

Okay, so I bit pissed off at the moment, newish boyfriend stayed at mine for a week last week as we were both off work at the same time. We have only stayed at each other's places couple of nights before with no issues, getting on well, however this past week he has been moany and weird about random stuff which to me are irrelevances i.e.

As the title said, moaned that I didn't have a le creuset type pot when he wanted to make a casserole, apparently the thing I use in the oven "isn't suitable"? wtf?

Moaned about the electric shower I have - okay it is pretty shit, but you know it works, yes I would love a brand new bathroom but I don't see anyone offering to pay for it.

Went over board on helping with cleaning, I'm a tidyish person, but couple of mornings got up early to make breakfast (which was nice) but then went on marathon "how clean is your house" style sessions in a kitchen which no way needed it.

Gave me a lecture about how my heating was set up "incorrectly" and would waste money.

Any views? I'm note sure now if he is just mad/rude or has to stupid idea that he is "helping" or something. I don't know it was going well this relationship but now seems a bit soured. I bit my tongue a bit in the week, other than saying no need to clean like mad, come and relax etc.

Should I be pissed off or should I be rushing out to buy "volcano orange" cast iron cook ware NOW/

vEGANvERA Sun 08-May-16 15:37:44

Run baby run!

Kennington Sun 08-May-16 15:38:15

Tell him that le creuset is over and it is all about copper these days wink

napmeistergeneral Sun 08-May-16 15:38:59

He was rude. YANBU.

kickassangel Sun 08-May-16 15:39:33

LTB.

He's pretty much spent a week telling you everything that you do wrong. your house, your cookware, your heating - none of it is as perfectly perfect as he is. So he spent the week putting it right, and he expects you to do as he says. Does he have Le Creuset cookware, a top of the range bathroom and a spotless place of his own? If so, why didn't you stay at his place?

Unless he's about 12 and this is his first relationship, there's no excuse for this behavior. My guess is that his MUM has Le Creuset etc. and he wants you to be just like her.

Run.

TheFuckersBitingMe Sun 08-May-16 15:39:58

Oh he sounds hard work, end him and remain single til you find someone who realises there's more to life than LC!

TheFuckersBitingMe Sun 08-May-16 15:40:49

Disclaimer - I meant end him as in ditch, not in the Al Pacino sense. Well, thinking about it, he was pretty bloody boorish.

Clonakiltylil Sun 08-May-16 15:41:06

If he likes Le Creuset so much, tell him to go out and buy one, the prick!

Birdsgottafly Sun 08-May-16 15:41:34

Your starting to find that day to day, you may not be as compatable as you thought, that's what staying in each other's houses, does.

He shouldn't be 'lecturing' you, you're an equal adult and he's showing that he isn't flexible and he moans.

It's very early days to be 'biting your tongue' and I don't think you should need to do that in your own home, anyway, unless it's for PILs.

It's about what you want in a DP (I can't stand moany people).

OiWithThePoodlesAlready Sun 08-May-16 15:42:56

He sounds like a dick. Cut your losses and get out of there!

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Sun 08-May-16 15:43:52

I couldn't be doing with someone so opionated/trying to be controlling. I had a bf who was like this and dumped him because of it. He thought he was perfect and spent all his time lecturing me.

Longdistance Sun 08-May-16 15:44:08

He sounds like a complete tosser.

Run like the wind, and then count your lucky stars you had a great escape! 🍷

AnyFucker Sun 08-May-16 15:45:15

This is your warning. Heed it.

TheCrumpettyTree Sun 08-May-16 15:45:53

Le Creuset comes in lots of colours.

formerbabe Sun 08-May-16 15:46:00

Run! There's nothing unsexier in a man than an obsession with domestic trivia and cleaning!

TaliZorahVasNormandy Sun 08-May-16 15:46:40

I bet if you did have Le Creuset it'd be the wrong colour.

Haggisfish Sun 08-May-16 15:46:42

Time for the mn classic line 'did you mean to be so rude?!'

SanityClause Sun 08-May-16 15:46:48

He is, in effect a guest in your house, and is expecting to take over.

All those things would really get my back up. I mean, I'm assuming you have managed to cook, clean, eat and bathe without his assistance for a number of years, so you really don't need his "help".

I would say it doesn't bode well for the future of the relationship, if you can't even spend a few days together, without him trying to take over - even if you weren't looking to live together in the future.

And I am 47, and have never owned a cast iron Le Creuset casserole. If I'm cooking a casserole in the oven, of any sort, I use a tagine, which I always find suitable.

Couchpotato3 Sun 08-May-16 15:47:20

So you were both off for a week and spent the whole time at yours - how come no return visit to his for half the time? Sounds like he was a PITA anyway and you're better off without him. Hope you've dumped him by now.

smokeybandit Sun 08-May-16 15:49:25

If he doesn't like your casserole pot he should make his casserole at home or bring his own. If he doesn't like your shower he doesn't have to use yours. If he thinks your heating is set up wrong then remind him you're the one who pays the bill, or thank him for the advice. He's being unnecessarily ott though, how does he think you survived until you met him?

Ihatechoosingnames Sun 08-May-16 15:51:33

Run. Fast. Never look back.

ImperialBlether Sun 08-May-16 15:58:55

I'd dump him. I can't imagine putting up with that level of criticism for a week in my own home.

Just out of interest - is his house filled with le creuset and clean as a whistle?

RaptorInaPorkPieHat Sun 08-May-16 16:00:21

He's a judgemental knob.

Ditch him but pause in the middle to check you're following correct procedurewink

SocksRock Sun 08-May-16 16:00:37

He's supposed to be your boyfriend, not your line manager!

Get rid.

I do have Le Creuset and love it very much, but we had to wait until we got married and some lovely people bought us JL vouchers - it's blimming expensive and I baby it a bit...

DailyMailAreAFuckingJoke Sun 08-May-16 16:00:57

I love LC and I also like a very tidy house. I wouldn't dream of criticising someone else though. He sounds like a bellend - dump and move on.

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