I have depression, and feel a bit delicate, please don't flame me.
dc are 8 and 4, and we seem to get into a bit of a cycle where I give them what they want, they act up, they are punished, they are sorry, then I give them what they want again and the cycle continues.
Sometimes I dread taking them out any where, and worry about them misbehaving. We have often had to leave family parties and get togethers before we are ready, because the dc are playing up.
We have family living abroad, and we would love to visit, but the idea of being stuck at someone else's house with dc fills me with dread.
We've always taken them straight home if they misbehave, but I'm now starting to realise that this is limiting us, and our lives are being dictated by the dc's behaviour.
So maybe it's about time we stopped putting the dc first in every situation, and have them learn that sometimes they have be at a family gathering, behave themselves and we'll leave when we're ready instead of when they start acting up. Maybe it's ultimately character building to be bored, sit and wait sometimes, and learn that the world doesn't revolve around them.
Sorry if that sounds really horrible, but I just feel very restricted atm, and like we can't take them any where without a tornado going through family's homes and leaving early with screaming dcs.
Dc2 has mild sn, but should still learn to behave. Just to clarify, by acting up I mean whinging, complaining, arguing with each other, and sometimes rudeness. All resulting in my flight response to get their unpleasant behaviour out of people's homes.
Any advice appreciated. Thanks.
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To change my mindset and expect dc to behave and fit in with our plans
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Stanky · 08/05/2016 12:52
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