To think guests should use their own bathroom not the spare one on the landing!

(203 Posts)
TigerPath Sat 07-May-16 15:31:21

3-bed house, DH and I have a bedroom with ensuite upstairs next to DS' room. There's another bathroom on the landing which I use to bath DS or if DH is in ours. Downstairs is an ensuite guestroom.

We've had loads of guests since we moved (popular seaside location) and much as I love having them I like my own space! The whole point of a downstairs ensuite guestroom is they should never need to come upstairs! angry Yet some of them come up to use the bathroom, which means I have to keep cleaning the bath and loo and I feel my space is being invaded.

Why can't they just use their own bathroom?? How do I tell them to use their own without seeming rude? It's a perfectly good bathroom with bath as well as shower, plenty of nice products, basket of spare toothbrushes, towels etc.

AIBU?

WorraLiberty Sat 07-May-16 15:34:11

Find out what they think is wrong with the ensuite.

Put the problem right.

Simply ask them to use that bathroom only, to save you having to keep cleaning the other one.

If they know you well enough to stay with you, they'll know you well enough to understand cleaning bathrooms unnecessarily pisses you off (it would piss me off too).

Grilledaubergines Sat 07-May-16 15:36:29

Yeah I think that would annoy me a bit actually and I'm not a fuss pot usually about these things.

How about on arrival "this is your room and you've got your own bathroom here too. We thought having our guest room down here with an ensuite would be a good idea so you have your own space."

And then a piece on piano wire across the first floor bathroom. Just don't forget it's there for yourselves!

Vixxfacee Sat 07-May-16 15:53:27

Stealth boast about having 3 bathrooms grin

rollonthesummer Sat 07-May-16 15:59:39

Describe the guest bathroom to us....

I remember one post a few years ago on year, where to shower in the poster's guest room, they had to squat down in the bath because of how/where the shower was fitted!!

Unless there's something strange or unusual about the guest bathroom and presuming it is next to the guest bedroom (downstairs) then I'm surprised that any guests would have cause to go upstairs?!

WorraLiberty Sat 07-May-16 16:01:14

That was my thinking rollon, that there must be a problem with the bathroom.

ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay Sat 07-May-16 16:03:42

There is something sting with guest bathroom of they are bothering to go upstairs.

Have a shower, have a poo, see what it is that isn't right

TigerPath Sat 07-May-16 16:07:57

It has a full-height shower over the bath, same as the one upstairs. Loo, sink identical to one upstairs. Only difference is upstairs one is more spacious, there's a chair by the bath etc. No issues with the shower or loo, I checked after the last guests.

I think they just don't want to wake other person up/want more privacy so they assume upstairs one is for their use too! I think that's so rude!

I will have to say something.

acasualobserver Sat 07-May-16 16:08:05

Wait until you have some really good friends to stay, the sort you've known for ever and can have a great laugh with and just ask them, 'Why does every bastard guest ignore the bathroom attached to their room in favour of the one up the stairs?"

NannawifeofBaldr Sat 07-May-16 16:15:21

I'd ask too. It seems an odd thing to do.

We have a guest bathroom too, guests tend only to use that one.

beckywiththemehhair Sat 07-May-16 16:16:29

op, it does seem strange for guests to choose another bathroom over the ensuite. However, in the same way that hotels and B&B often have several bathrooms in the premises for their guests, maybe they think that the other bathroom is for their use too. I think you need to be clear from the beginning what is communal and what is private.

Mumoftwoyoungkids Sat 07-May-16 16:21:16

Just say "Ooooh - don't use the bathroom upstairs - it's generally fine but occasionally the flush stops working for no reason whatsoever."

Joinourclub Sat 07-May-16 16:22:05

Hmmm you could be my friend. I use the upstairs bathroom when everyone is up, because the downstairs one is right next to the living area and I feel self conscious weeing when everyone can hear.

pigsDOfly Sat 07-May-16 16:23:58

Put a lock, one with a key, on the bathroom upstairs and only give keys to members of the family. Keep it permanently locked and no one else will be able to use it.

My last house use to have a combined bathroom and lavatory upstairs and a separate loo downstairs, which I expected visitors - not staying guests - to use.

Almost everyone who visited would just go straight upstairs and use the loo in my bathroom. Used to drive me nuts. I live alone and the bathroom was my private space.

It certainly had nothing to do with them feeling it was more private as the downstairs loo was tucked away at the back of the house and the bathroom was directly at the top of the stairs that were off the living room.

dudsville Sat 07-May-16 16:28:43

Are you saying they never use the en suite, or they use the upstairs one as well as the en suite? If it's "as well" then I'd presume they don't know you consider this to be a breach. You don't have to get people around especially to test it, just try it yourself and see what might be the matter.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Sat 07-May-16 16:29:56

What JoinourClub says :

I can just about bring myself to wee in the ensuite when my partner is in the bedroom, but there is no way Id do a poo..

blaeberry Sat 07-May-16 16:31:44

How old is ds? How about a stair gate at top and bottom of stairs? We had one that worked like a sideways roller blind. Guests could never figure out how to make it work...

ProjectUniverse Sat 07-May-16 16:32:24

We had guests recently and also have 3 bathrooms - yet one guest thought it was ok to use our ensuite!

Wdigin2this Sat 07-May-16 16:36:19

Fully understand your point! We have two bathrooms, I have family one and DH has ensiute. When we have guests, they have to use my bathroom....and I bloody hate it!!!!

louise2011 Sat 07-May-16 16:42:21

They probably want to have a nosey at your upstairs. By providing them with a guest suite downstairs means that upstairs is essentially out of bounds BUT they need to have a poke around!

glenthebattleostrich Sat 07-May-16 16:43:37

We had a townhouse with master bedroom and separate bathroom on the top floor and 2 bedroom with a jack and Jill family bathroom on the middle floor then living room, kitchen and toilet downstairs. The first time MIL came to stay I was in the shower when she started asking how long I'd be. Thinking she was just outside the door I turned to call out for her just to use the shower in her room as the water pressure was good. As I turned I realised that she was in my bathroom.

Obviously I was a bit cross and snapped could she just leave the room and use the other shower. Oh no, replies MIL, I'm going to try your shower and I'll just wait until you are done.

Get the hell out of my bloody bathroom yells I which prompts MIL to stomp out in a huff. Very strong words were had and she wasn't invited back for some time especially as she didn't see what she'd done wrong and complained that I'd upset her and didn't make her welcome enough.

YADNBU, guests need to keep to their own area.

GinnyMcGinFace Sat 07-May-16 16:44:27

I'm sure you do, but...you do make sure there are towels?! Maybe they all stealthily steal your toiletries?! It seems very odd-I'm lazy and wouldn't bother coming up the stairs if I didn't have to!

beckywiththemehhair Sat 07-May-16 16:44:59

glen shock

louise2011 Sat 07-May-16 16:45:00

Also , my sister, who has a massive house with 4 bathrooms found a guest taking her toddler to do a wee in her ensuite at a house party recently!!!! (Other side of her house). Really???? Nosey f**cker

Cressandra Sat 07-May-16 16:49:38

"Put a lock, one with a key, on the bathroom upstairs and only give keys to members of the family. Keep it permanently locked and no one else will be able to use it."

This could come across as a tad standoffish smile

I think Mumoftwo has the solution. Also use the downstairs bathroom for a couple of days and see if you can figure out what the problem is. Is it windowless, do you have curtains/blinds fitted or could there be a privacy issue?

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