To think this habit is disgusting?

[bettawithpancetta]

This morning I had to fish my dh's nicotine gum out of the toilet. He thinks that this is no big deal and I should just flush it- he's been doing it for ages Usually it's just urine he leaves which I also hate. He does not understand that these little things make me feel disrespected and are a huge turnoff. Is this ur?

[SoleBizzz]

Pmsl

[Squeegle]

It is ridiculous to put gum in the toilet, he needs to put it in the bin.

[KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes]

I'd have flushed it.

Why did you pick it out?

[SeasonalVag]

Why didn't you make him do it?

[whois]

I'd probably have put some tissue over it and flushed it. Picking it out is a bit grim especially if he has left piss there too!

[bettawithpancetta]

He'd left- I didn't want it to block toilet. Sorry what does pmsl men?

[whatdoIget]

I doubt it would block the toilet! How big was the piece?

[StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine]

Let it block the toilet. Then let him sort out getting it fixed.

[DontBuyANewMumCashmere]

I wouldn't care about the wee in the loo but the gum is annoying. I wouldn't fish it out but if I told my DH I found it disrespectful there's no way he'd carry on doing it.

What a douche.

[bettawithpancetta]

Ok but if he's doing it regularly- it's just one of many things that he does that I find v unhelpful/slovenly/depressing.

[Cookingongas]

Block the toilet?!? Unless you have a macerator style system ( saniflow etc) then it'd have to be gum the size of a gobstopper to block a toilet!

[Believeitornot]

Basically he doesn't flush the toilet?

WTF

[Cookingongas]

Yanbu though- you put it in the toilet you flush it, standard toilet etiquette.

[scribblegirl]

NC. My sister didn't flush the toilet until she left for uni. Vile and lazy.

Living in a flat share and getting bitchily mocked knocked it out of her in 2 weeks.

HTH

[bettawithpancetta]

So other people don't mind having to flush toilet for grown man when caring for a toddler?

[booklooker]

Golden rule:

If a flush is not enough, try again. it's still your stuff'

I just made that up; I'm quite proud of myself.

[Cookingongas]

Book lover- you rule. Can't wait to try it out when my nephews visit!

[acasualobserver]

Perhaps your husband is saving water by leaving his piss in the pan? If it's yellow let it mellow, if it's brown flush it down.

[bettawithpancetta]

Yes that's good ....

[GrumpyMcGrumpFace]

bettawithpancetta I think I can see where you're coming from: he's just leaving it assuming "someone" will sort it out. Unfortunately you are the acting chambermaid, and that sucks. I think you need to talk to him, you sound deeply pissed off.

[whois]

Sometimes people have a 'no flush in the night' rule of the plumbing is noisy so I can see why there might be wee there first thing - clutching st straws

[GrumpyMcGrumpFace]

booklooker you should make a load of boards with that written on in fine calligraphy for people to hang in their loos. You'll make a killing

[Eeeek686]

What happened to 'if it's yellow let it mellow, if it's brown flush it down'?!?

Not sure where that leaves nicotine gum though, tbh

[bettawithpancetta]

If you chew it don't throw in loo it?

[Eeeek686]

Rubbish cross-post, observer.....

(On my part, obvs)