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AIBU?

to think ds should be given another badge?

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DorothyL · 04/05/2016 15:52

He is 9 and has a statement of sn. Rituals and certain items make him feel secure. Over the year he has earnt three metal merit badges in school and putting them on his jumper and wearing them is an essential part of his routine. He lost one earlier in the year and was given a replacement by school. He now lost another one and was told he couldn't have another replacement. Aibu to think the school should allow him another replacement in light of his circumstances?

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Toffeelatteplease · 04/05/2016 15:53

I would offer to pay for another one

PPie10 · 04/05/2016 15:55

If you pay for it then yes he should. If not then Yabu.

PattiLevin · 04/05/2016 15:55

What toffee said. And yes they should as that would be kind.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 04/05/2016 15:56

Did they explain why? If they don't have any more of that badge, then they should have explained. If its because they don't want to keep replacing badges, then I'd offer to pay for it. (or order one online if its a generic merit badge)

DorothyL · 04/05/2016 15:59

They said he couldn't have one because he already had one replaced.

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PPie10 · 04/05/2016 16:01

Yes but they can't keep on giving him unlimited badges. If he keeps losing them then they shouldn't have to keep replacing it.!

PPie10 · 04/05/2016 16:01

Sorry rogue !

Toffeelatteplease · 04/05/2016 16:02

Even if you pay for it?

If you've offered to pay and they are still saying no then that is very unreasonable

DorothyL · 04/05/2016 16:03

I would agree with you were it not for the fact that ds's special needs mean he is emotionally more affected than another child, as well as clumsier and therefore more likely to lose them.

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DorothyL · 04/05/2016 16:03

Haven't had a chance to offer to pay for it yet, but will

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CoolforKittyCats · 04/05/2016 16:04

Have you offered to pay?

DorothyL · 04/05/2016 16:04

No not yet

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 04/05/2016 16:05

I imagine they'll give one to you if you offer to pay.

He probably needs to stop wearing them on his jumper, though. Could he stick them to something he can carry round with him instead? That way you could sellotape them on.

DorothyL · 04/05/2016 16:06

Then he'd probably leave them somewhere...

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Toffeelatteplease · 04/05/2016 16:07

I'm speaking as a mum to a child with needs that are described as complex. Including dyspraxia and ASD.

DorothyL · 04/05/2016 16:07

He is very proud of them, as they are one of the only things that he can impress his peers with

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Toffeelatteplease · 04/05/2016 16:07

Sew them onto the jumper

DorothyL · 04/05/2016 16:09

Good idea but he wears different ones each day, they need washing...

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Toffeelatteplease · 04/05/2016 16:10

Sods law just pay for the replacement then

Vajazzler · 04/05/2016 16:10

Can you just replace it yourself?

There are lots on ebay for a few pounds

here

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 04/05/2016 16:10

If they mean a lot to him, it might be worth stocking up on a few? If school can't/won't sell them to you, I'm sure you can get them online - these perhaps? or these?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 04/05/2016 16:12

Find out who the school supplier us and see if you can bulk buy a bag - I doubt they are particularly expensive, but probably an unjustifiable expense for the school IYSWIM.

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DorothyL · 04/05/2016 16:12

Great idea, will stock up.
Am annoyed though, why couldn't the school just talk to me instead of flatly saying no to ds? Makes me wonder how much they really know/understand him

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MajesticSeaFlapFlap · 04/05/2016 16:13

Yeah I'd buy a few so you have some on hand.
The school shouldn't have to keep.paying for new ones

Toffeelatteplease · 04/05/2016 16:14

Does he have a one to one? They probably don't realise how much it has upset him if he has held it together in school.

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