I am 37, DH is 43, we have a DD who is just 2.
I never went back on contraception after DD was born (in case it took a while for it to stop working, when we decided to have another).
Now I am ready, the time feels right, DD will (hopefully) have free childcare soon. The clock is ticking..
We abstained from sex for a long while after DD was born (no libido when BF!). And now when we DTD , DH is very careful to withdraw IYSWIM..
I have now said I want us to start trying, but he wants to wait until
- We move house..
- I get rid of cough... (I had a cough since chest infection in Feb).
I think he is anxious , last night he accused me of thinking of him as a machine.. (we did not argue, but I just brought it up again).. I don't want to go on, but I don;t want to leave it until I am no longer able to have babies.. as it stands I am one of the "older" mums, and I want some sort of closeness in the age gap between DD and sibling...
I'm not sure why I'm posting.. i just need to persist, I don't want to be the nagging wife who goes on and on though.. It should be a happy time... (me in my own dream world I suppose!).
He has always said he wants us to have 2.. we have been together for 18 years and married for 1... we are happy otherwise...