My mother in law is brilliant and has offered to take care of ds two days a week. I am 100% appreciative of her offer. She has also made the same offer to my brother in law and his partner, to take their dd on the same days.
I am 100% behind this. I think it would be lovely for the children to get to know each other and to spend time with their grandma.
But... My brother in law and his girlfriend are coming up with all sorts of objections...
- They don't want it at their house. Apparently it's because mil likes the heat on (though mil says she won't have the heat on, especially this time of year and plans to take the children to playgroups etc)
- They don't want to drive both children to mil's house around 15 miles away (I suggested that they drop the children off and I'd pick them up as I start at 7.30am so can't really do the morning) apparently it costs too much (!)
- They don't like the car seat i bought... They don't want to switch it between the three cars (mine, theirs and mils) even though its designed for this, got 81% on which review and I've paid for it and haven't asked for them to chip in (blood out of stone, and to be frank, I just want ds and dn to be safe!)
- Every suggestion I've come up with they've vetoed.
Mil has breathing problems and we live on a hill so she's said she would prefer not to do it at our house. We're also in a parking permit zone with stupid restrictions meaning that we only get 60 24hr permits a year (50p each) which wouldn't be enough for two days a week, so even if mil said "ok, I'll deal with the hill" it wouldn't be possible.
I just don't know what to suggest!
Today I asked my mum if she'd take ds one day, and I don't know what to do about the other... I could find another childminder, but it's not something we've budgeted for (we would do it though). Mil was upset about this idea...
Aibu to have given up trying to find a solution to suit us all and just try to sort something for my ds and let them sort themselves out? I am really fed up with it!
I feel really bad for mil - she's made a generous offer of her time and bil ad his gf are just taking it for granted! It's gt to the point where I'd rather just do my own thing so as to not deal with them!