It is a tricky situation but dp''s dm (let's call her A) is a nightmare. A is disabled(back problems but can do some stuff, drives and can walk etc), has no carers as they stopped coming apparently because she refused to do anything or let them do anything so dp has to do a lot for her. That is fine but she doesn't understand that we have a 2 year old and he works. She has dps dad to help sometimes but he doesn't live with her. Dp has 2 brothers that do nothing.
the thing is, she is very eneltitiled and just not that nice of a person at all. The other day she called us at 6am and woke everyone up, because she wanted dp to go over there and buy her fags as her shopping delivery with cigarettes wasn't arriving until 7-8am and she doesn't think that's unreasonable. Dp didn't go obviously because she can wait 1-2 hours for cigarettes. She then tried very hard to make dp f33l guilty over this. She says the reason he didn't go is because I told him not to (I didnt)
she also threw a strop because the day I had ds I was in hospital and hadn't eaten anything all day and dp said he was just going to go to the shops to get me some food before going to hers, apparently she really needed sugar for coffee and this is an emergency :/
we don't get on, mainly because she does horrible shit like accuse me of getting pregnant on purpose, apparently I had told her I was on the pill. She told all of dps family this. The woman is insane. I was never know the pill and I certainly wouldn't have been telling my boyfriends mum at 21 what birth control we were using!
She also had a strop because the 2nd time I was pregnant we didn't tell her or anyone right away, as I was contemplating an abortion because I had hypermesis badly and the timing wasn't good wjth ds being only 1 and having no money etv. She guessed because dp had said I was ill and threatened to call an ambulance if dp didn't tell her I was pregnant or not. Then she was nasty about the abortion and gave me shit afterwards.
basically, she is just not a nice person at all.
She drives me mad. She sends weird texts like "thanks for letting dp help me today" which sounds nice but it isn't. She's trying to say I control dp basically but no have never told him to not go over there. I've been pissed off about her demands sometimes when they are ridiculous but I've never said not to.
The problem is, she does need help with doing things and she is dps mum so he does feel he has to do all this stuff but it's affecting our life so much, I wouldn't mind if it were genuine things she needed done but waking everyone up including the 2 year old at 6am because she doesn't want to wait an hour for cigarettes is not a genuine problem. It's getting dp down a lot.
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It's a tricky one because I don't want to be horrible but she's no exactly nice either. I've had a few arguments with her when she thinks things like my uterus are her business and she does not like me at all although she pretends to when she's getting her way.
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Abbbinob · 02/05/2016 09:00
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