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AIBU?

AIBU to be annoyed with DP

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Mariqui · 29/04/2016 18:23

DP missed a delivery a couple of weeks ago, just as we were moving house. He can't go to pick it up himself because the postal centre is far away and he can't drive due to his disabilities. It needs to be picked up on Saturday, otherwise it will be returned to sender.

AIBU to be annoyed that he has now reminded me about twenty five times?! When I said that I was remembering he said that he was very stressed out because Saturday is the last day, like it was some majorly important thing. It's a fucking Meerkat toy. Aaaaargh. AIBU, should I just let it slide and ignore, or is he being completely annoying?! I can't quite tell after such a ridiculous week!

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MLGs · 29/04/2016 18:27

Can't he do the redelivery thing on line? I never go to the sorting office.

Mariqui · 29/04/2016 18:30

No unfortunately not because we don't live at that address anymore

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Custardo · 29/04/2016 18:32

yeah I get why your pissed ouff - tell him to shut the fuck up for a bit

hope that helps

Arfarfanarf · 29/04/2016 18:38

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Mariqui · 29/04/2016 18:47

Haha thanks Custardo.

Arfarfanarf - yes!

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Arfarfanarf · 29/04/2016 18:53

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Mariqui · 29/04/2016 18:59

Definitely Arfarfanarf. That is probably our most frequent issue.

I do completely get that it would be frustrating and know I wouldn't cope with it half as well as he does. But being reminded to do something over and over is so annoying!

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MiffleTheIntrovert · 29/04/2016 19:02

Bit harsh just telling him to fuck off.

It's very frustrating having to rely on other people for stuff like this. Possibly more frustrating than being reminded about it. Could he get a taxi or other form of transport to get it himself?

Is there a particular reason why you haven't been able to collect it in the last few weeks? I

GeorgeTheThird · 29/04/2016 19:03

It sounds like a recurring issue. Can you agree a system, a blackboard in the kitchen or a shopping list pad or calendar or something? Then he knows you'll remember, but he doesn't keep going on about it?

TrinityForce · 29/04/2016 19:04

Probably because they've just moved house and she's busy, miffle. My post collection place is only open 9-5 and who the hell can make it in that time? So if she works she's only really had 1 saturday to actually collect it.

MiffleTheIntrovert · 29/04/2016 19:07

The opening hours are annoying, I totally agree with that.

Another of my pet hates is missing a parcel delivery as I can't get to the door in time. It's so frustrating. If I missed the door and then had to rely on DH for a few weeks to collect something, think I would cancel the damn thing!

Mariqui · 29/04/2016 19:10

I wouldn't tell him to fuck off. Yes, on the first Saturday we were unpacking. The rest of the time I've been at work. And I always said I'd get in this Saturday, so it's not like I said I would do something and didn't.

Good idea George, we do that for householdy things already but I hadn't thought of adding general errands. Will definitely do that

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Mariqui · 29/04/2016 19:13

My DP has exactly the same issue with getting to the door Miffle. I do understand where you're coming from and if I could have collected it already I would

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thestarryeyedsurprise · 29/04/2016 19:15

He's stressing about a meerkat toy?!

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WellErrr · 29/04/2016 19:27

I think YABVU.

It doesn't matter what it is. It's his and it's important to him. Whether it's a 'fucking meerkat toy' or not.
He can't get it himself as he's disabled. He's anxious about losing it.

Try a bit of bloody empathy. What if it was YOUR important item?

Mariqui · 29/04/2016 19:29

Ok WellErr.

I can have empathy and be frustrated by being reminded over and over again.

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SummerHouse · 29/04/2016 19:34

I think he is just stressed out. Why not write it on a blackboard, or on a note. "DP, please don't worry. I promised you I will get your meerkat and I will. Cross it off your list of things to worry about. I have this covered. Love you. X"

SummerHouse · 29/04/2016 19:35

P.s yanbu

Mariqui · 29/04/2016 19:56

We've just had a chat.

As Arf and Summer suggested, it's not actually about the toy. Which to be fair I probably would have picked up on in any normal week.

I have apologised for getting annoyed and he has apologised for nagging.

Thank you for the thoughts and advice - we are getting in a new blackboard!

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Footle · 29/04/2016 20:14

That is a happy ending for him, you and the meerkat.

SummerHouse · 29/04/2016 22:07

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MiffleTheIntrovert · 30/04/2016 10:07

Well I'm just coming back to say how nice it is to see "nagging" being used to describe male behaviour rather than just the usual of it being used to shut women up - good work OP

Mariqui · 30/04/2016 21:58

Haha Miffle - it definitely goes both ways!!

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