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AIBU?

to complain about daughters teacher

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user5512343212 · 28/04/2016 17:38

My daughter suffers from some serious medical conditions meaning she can be sick up to 20x a day. Her pervious teacher was very good allowing her to get up and leave the classrooms as and when she needed. She also used to take mints in as she had a few comments from other children about smelly breath.
When she moved year group in September I spoke to the teacher hoping the same care would continue. He straight away refused her to take mints in saying it would upset other children and wasn't promoting healthy eating. I brushed it under the carpet and didn't want to cause a fuss and thought I would raise the situation again if needed. I hoped she would still leave the classroom when she needed as this is what he agreed.
I have recently found out that he isn't letting my daughter leave the classroom as and when she needs saying it is to disruptive and as other children thought it was unfair. Meaning she is swallowing her sick.
Aibu in thinking this is special circumstances and he is being very unfair and unkind.
My daughter has also commented on how she thinks her teacher doesn't like her.

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BanningTheWordNaice · 28/04/2016 17:39

:O YANBU.

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CandPthisyoufuckers · 28/04/2016 17:40

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PresidentCJCregg · 28/04/2016 17:40

Oh my lord. Please please complain!!

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DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 28/04/2016 17:41

Definitely complain, that's disgusting.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 28/04/2016 17:42

He is being utterly unreasonable not to let her out - that is shocking.

Re. the mints - would she be happy to use a children's mouthwash instead?

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Alexa444 · 28/04/2016 17:43

I would. And tell her not to swallow it, throw up on the floor. Or his desk if she can manage it. He'll soon change his tune.

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user5512343212 · 28/04/2016 17:44

We have letters from her paediatrician explaining her current medical needs, as she was also taking medication in school.
Would you suggest that I speck to her teacher again or go straight to the head teacher.

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TheGhostOfBarryFairbrother · 28/04/2016 17:44

YANBU! Poor girl!

Is the SENCO involved? Could they have a word? If not I wouldn't hesitate to escalate to the head.

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user5512343212 · 28/04/2016 17:45

I have told her she must go even if he doesn't allow her as it might cause even more problems. The problem is she is to scared she will get in trouble.
The mouthwash is a good idea and will mention it tomorrow.

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RaeSkywalker · 28/04/2016 17:46

Shock YANBU

I think I'd go straight to the HT.

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user5512343212 · 28/04/2016 17:47

SENCO is not involved, although she does have a health care plan. We have never had a problem before and they have always managed it well until now.

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acasualobserver · 28/04/2016 17:48

or go straight to the head teacher

Yes, make an appointment to see the Head. This will almost certainly be the quickest way of putting this situation right. (Ignore the inevitable advice to contact Ofsted and/or the governors.)

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araiba · 28/04/2016 17:49

speak to the teacher first

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/04/2016 17:50

Straight to the Head!!

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Pipbin · 28/04/2016 17:52

Poor love. How dreadful for her.

Is there any chance that the teacher things that she is making it up or that she is using it as an excuse to get out of the classroom?

Send her in with sick bags, use them in the classroom and then she can prove that she isn't making it up.

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ParanoidGynodroid · 28/04/2016 17:53

Absolutely shocking. And this has been going on since September? Shock

Go in to the school tomorrow and make your position known.

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DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings · 28/04/2016 17:55

Surely swallowing her sick will cause her throat/stomach lining problems as well (?) I'd go straight to the head.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/04/2016 17:56

YNBU. He's abusing his position of power as well as failing in his legal duty of care.
I'm sure if Ofsted was to rock up. He'd shape up and not brush her medical condition under the carpet.
I'd speak to the HT. Why give him a chance to worm out of the situation and blind you with science. I'd let the HT wipe the floor with him, after all. This is not human error. He knows exactly what he's doing.

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araiba · 28/04/2016 17:56

im guessing your daughter is quite young, so in the first instance go and speak to him to ensure you have all the correct information and discuss as two adults what needs to carry on in the future.

if you get nowhere with that, then speak to head

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Four4me · 28/04/2016 17:56

Poor girl. Tell her to be sick on his shoes

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user5512343212 · 28/04/2016 17:56

I have no reason not to believe her, and it may seem she is leaving the class room a lot as she can be sick up to 10x after one meal all small amounts so I do understand that it could become disruptive.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/04/2016 17:57

He can't think she's making it up. Surely the school have her medical needs to hand.

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BitOutOfPractice · 28/04/2016 17:57

Bloody hell - that is just barbaric. Your poor DD

I would ask for a meeting with the teacher and HT asap

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HeffalumpHistory · 28/04/2016 17:59

Surely swallowing her sick will cause her throat/stomach lining problems

I thought this too. I'd go straight to the head tbh

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