AIBU re 'treat' from DP's relatives

(60 Posts)
Sausalito Thu 28-Apr-16 14:07:44

DP's auntie and uncle who live abroad, are coming to London next week. They want to treat us as well as see us for a few hours and have asked us to book a Sundowner Cruise on the Thames (they want us to Book for tickets and they will send us the money ). It costs £29 per person and is basically a two hour cruise from 18.30 on the Thames with a glass of sparkling wine and some canapés. It's not a fancy boat just one of the regular ones they use for tourist Thames trips.

There aren't many reviews online of this cruise but those that I have found are pretty mediocre. It appears you get about three canapés for your money, there is music on board which some reviews have complained about and overall it doesn't seem worth the money. I'm a bit worried about the lack of food provided as I need to eat fairly regularly and this would right around dinnertime. It's just not something that DP and I would ever pay this kind of money for. I'm also not keen on those evening time boat trips - difficult to explain why but the thought of the trip makes me a bit anxious and it's just not my kind of thing.

I probably sound very ungrateful but we would be happy to just meeting for a coffee, meal or drink somewhere nice. The ball is in our court really as they have asked us to sort out the tickets . I feel like the right thing to do is to just go ahead and book as that's what they want, but I really don't want to go on this trip it sounds awful!

Genuinely asking if I'm being unreasonable. I think part of it is that I hate feeling like I'm being made to do something that I don't want to do. I feel the only way out would be to find something really nice to do in central London early evening time for the same price or cheaper ( as they are insisting that they will give us the money) and suggest that instead. But I can't think of anything! Any ideas? Heights are out, so no London Eye.

Or AIBU, should I just go along with their plans? They are lovely BTW.

NannawifeofBaldr Thu 28-Apr-16 14:10:25

I'd go along with their plans.

Cakescakescakes Thu 28-Apr-16 14:12:41

Perhaps they really want to do it? So they think it's a treat as it would be a treat for them? The food isn't a problem. Can't you just have a snack before you go?

Sausalito Thu 28-Apr-16 14:13:13

Thanks Nanna. Apologies for bad punctuation and typos by the way, I posted in a rush.

I'd be interested if any MNers have been on this cruise.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Thu 28-Apr-16 14:13:14

If they're coming from abroad, I'd let them choose what they want to do. Have a big snack before you go if you're worried about hunger making you poorly. It might not be your type of thing, but you can go eat out in central London at another time. It might be mediocre but good company drastically improves most events, and it might be really good!

Pinkheart5915 Thu 28-Apr-16 14:13:19

It's sounds nice to me
I'd go along with there plans it's one night out of there year. It's lovely of them to want to treat you

sooperdooper Thu 28-Apr-16 14:15:28

Can't you eat beforehand? I think it's their treat and obviously something they want to do as part of their trip so you should do it

Unless you can find another cruise that has better reviews that you could do instead?

Sausalito Thu 28-Apr-16 14:16:10

You're probably right, Cakes, although of course they could do this trip without us and see us another time. It just seems a huge waste of their money. They won't have checked the reviews. They are pensioners and the kind of people to check their email twice a month.

BillSykesDog Thu 28-Apr-16 14:16:29

Go along with their plans. It's a couple of hours and you're not paying. Pretend you've enjoyed it even if you haven't. Anything else would be really rude and ungracious.

To be honest, I think when someone invites you on a trip they are paying for, to look up reviews and then turn your nose up is ungrateful and very bad mannered.

WordGetsAround Thu 28-Apr-16 14:17:21

Why wouldn't you? Just go for it and have a nice time. It's great to do things you wouldn't always chose yourself.

AnyFucker Thu 28-Apr-16 14:19:20

I would just go and make the best of it in this scenario

TiggerPiggerPoohBumWee Thu 28-Apr-16 14:19:25

I think part of it is that I hate feeling like I'm being made to do something that I don't want to do

Pretty childish. Nobody is making you do anything, they've merely asked you. You can say no thanks, you can suggest something else, you can lie and tell them there are no tickets left, you can tell them you have a morbid fear of boats, or canapes.....the possibilities are endless.
OR you could book it and go and sulk and complain that people are making you do things you don't want to do....your choice!

BoogieTime Thu 28-Apr-16 14:19:52

I did that cruise and had a ball! It's really good fun, the canapés were great, the cocktails were two for one and the scenery is of course wonderful. And I say that as a Londoner! Just do it grin

Sausalito Thu 28-Apr-16 14:20:26

Ok, looks so far like IABU smile Maybe I just need to get my head around it and chill out and not worry too much!

To complicate things, we have already had to tell them that we couldn't go along with their previous plan which involved us meeting them at 3pm at their hotel on a mid week working day! For some reason they thought we would just pop out to meet them when we should be at work!

MattDillonsPants Thu 28-Apr-16 14:20:27

It's the sort of thing pensioners love. Go. Make lots of noises about how marvellous it all is and how you're enjoying it and enthuse about it later.

That's the kind thing to do.

BoogieTime Thu 28-Apr-16 14:21:15

I also found discount codes online which got it down to £22 each, so have a Google and see what you find! And I went with some pensioners too who also loved it.

Jengnr Thu 28-Apr-16 14:21:36

Even if it's shit it's two hours. I think it sounds quite nice but then I like boats and I like booze smile

Will having your tea early sort out the food issue? Or willsome cheese on toast or something about 5pm keep you going then have tea afterwards?

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs Thu 28-Apr-16 14:21:45

Actually I'd find something else around the same price range and suggest it to them but make it clear that we'll book the tickets if that's what they really want. It might be that the cruise is just something a bit different and they suggested it.

mumeeee Thu 28-Apr-16 14:22:55

I would go along with their plans. I know you say they won't have checked the reviews but they might have and just decided they really to do it.
It sounds nice to me.

acasualobserver Thu 28-Apr-16 14:25:50

Biscuits in handbag.

YouSay Thu 28-Apr-16 14:26:35

Your latest post sounds like you really don't want to meet them at all. Be gracious and go along with their plans.

whois Thu 28-Apr-16 14:26:55

Even if it's not your cup of tea can't you just go, enjoy it for what it is and enjoy the time with the family? Take a sarnie with you if you're worried about food.

Costacoffeeplease Thu 28-Apr-16 14:26:56

This is what they want to do, so unless there's any real reason not to go along with it, then do. You do sound a bit precious

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Thu 28-Apr-16 14:26:58

could they be sidetracked into a nice dinner somewhere...it's not that hard to find nice pretheatre menus or lovely lunches for £29 per head and then get them a Red River Rover ticket other ridiculously named options are available and two swanky sandwiches and mini proseccos from M&S for them to eat on the boat the next day.

they get to treat you to a meal out and catch up and you can gift them a day on the river

whois Thu 28-Apr-16 14:28:24

To complicate things, we have already had to tell them that we couldn't go along with their previous plan which involved us meeting them at 3pm at their hotel on a mid week working day! For some reason they thought we would just pop out to meet them when we should be at work!

Well they aren't at work any more are they :-) forgotten what it's like. Or maybe think you might swing a few hours OOO for them.

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