It's a long 1 sorry, but don't want to drip feed and really need some opinions/advice for meeting with chair of governors tomorrow
Son had autism, has been at this school for 18 mths following a move. He's in year 4. There have been many issues and trips to head teacher in the past school year, incidentally year 3 was great. almost with out fault. But I want to concentrate on the bullying.
Ds has asthma and in winter has a scarf/snud on to help. A boy and 3 of the boys from the year above started to bully him. Pretty low level at first, telling him he wasn't gangsta enough for a snud... Then started calling him spaz, retarded midget... Pushing and shoving. They had a warning. Then they all physically attacket him and strangled him with said snud/scarfs.
Written reports ect ect, head teacher told me and my son in a meeting that the boy (main boy) was on his last warning. His parents were being called in. She promised it would never happen again or he'd be excluded "we don't have nasty children in our school"
He kept his distance, odd name calling. Fast forward 4mths
My ds and 3 of his friends were playing on the field when the other boy and his same friends from the last incident came. Called him a retarded midget, penned him in and started to assault him. Kicking. Punching. Kicking him in privates. Chucking him to floor, braking his glasses. 2 of them holding him whilst the others tucked his legs behind his head (folded him up) kicked him down a hill. Chased him down and assaulted him again when he tried to escape. 1 girl tried to stop all this happening and got a bang to head. Finally a older boy stopped this and took him to a dinner lady. (My son says this went on for over 10 minutes)
My son had to stand with dinner lady until the end of play time.
I'm not 100% sure what happened in the next two hours.
But I was at school for a Sen meeting that finished at 2.30. I asked the receptionist if I could take my ds home half hour early as I was already there. She rang down to his classroom and she relayed a message "there has been a incident at lunch time, if you want Mrs (Dp head teacher) to investigate it today he'll have to stay.
Whilst I was outside my ds had to give a statement, then sit in a room with all these boys. Was made to say sorry
So I sat out side in the car... Picked ds up as normal but a girl came over to me and said my ds had been beaten up. The head had left so I said I'd be in to see her the next day. A voice mail came through a little later, but thy had been left when I was parked outside school, saying they'd been playing ruff, boys will be boys ect ect.
All night my son is drip feeding me info on the attack, 2 other parents of children who's seen it called me to check ds was ok.
Son went on school trip Tuesday, I went to see dep head, she said, she'd forgotten it had happened before, she can't keep track of everything she has 100s of these conversations with parents. She needs to look at paperwork. She was treating it as a 1 of, I said my son wouldn't be in school until this boy had been excluded.
So today, I've spoke to the mp, who has spoken to the chair of governors who called me & we're having a meeting at 3 tomorrow. What shall I expect?
My sons class teacher has also called me today, asking if I'll bring ds tomorrow as having a exciting day, also slipping in there that I'm overprotective, that other boy wouldn't do this that and the other for no reason, 2 sides to every story ect.. that ds would be safe at school
Opinions, advice welcome and needed
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Pocketrocket31 · 27/04/2016 19:59
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