Holiday Aibu?

(6 Posts)
Fluffyduck1 Tue 26-Apr-16 17:52:15

It has been a horrendous year for our family that's includes 2 very sudden deaths of close family members and my mum having to have her leg amputated. I have worked my behind off the last few months caring for everyone, studying, working and running our home ( with the help of dh, who is amazing and supportive) but I feel exhausted. My dh has suggested that myself and 2 dd's have a few days in the sun somewhere that we can relax and he will pay for it( he has commitments that mean he is not able to come with us) . We are not well off but can afford a cheapish mini break abroad. Both dd's work so could afford another holiday later in the year anyway with their partners. The problem is that dd1 is looking at quite expensive places that are simply not in our budget. I have explained again and again what the budget is and that we really can't go much higher and that the long haul, all inclusive, ( so that she doesn't need spending money) that she is looking at is totally pointless for a few days and I do not want to /cannot go for longer anyway. She is behaving like a spoiled brat tbh and I actually just want to say don't come then and just go with dd2 but then that would cause all sorts of issues that I haven't got the strength to deal with. Aibu just to book something affordable that I want to do and just expect her to be grateful ?

MyBreadIsEggy Tue 26-Apr-16 17:54:31

If your DD works, can you suggest that she pays the extra money for two more expensive places she wants to go??.....Bet she will soon change her mind and settle on a cheaper place that both you and dd2 are happy with grin
Hope you have a wonderful holiday wherever you end up going - sounds like you deserve a break!! flowers

MyBreadIsEggy Tue 26-Apr-16 17:55:07

That should read "to go to the more expensive place"
Phone had a moment of madness.

OliviaBenson Tue 26-Apr-16 18:44:05

Yanbu. She shouldn't get to dictate when your DH is paying. Can you find something you want to do and tell her this is the holiday your going on, is she coming or not? If she says no, well then that's her decision.

iwantavuvezela Tue 26-Apr-16 18:48:15

Just say, sounds lovely when she makes a suggestion, throw in a always wanted to go there comment. then ask her to work out the price for flights and hotel etc, and then say, oh no, that is x amount over budgets need to keep looking. And repeat!

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone Tue 26-Apr-16 19:06:23

Yanbu at all

Say that's great, DH will pay X amount so you'll need to pay the difference, OK? And smile sweetly

She's an adult. I wouldn't blame you for saying you are having a BREAK from stress, you don't need the stress she's giving you and worrying about money, so while you want both dd's to go, if she keeps adding to your stress you will just go with non-stress-adding dd.

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