DH recently got a new job following six months on massively reduced hours and a redundancy, all very good and I'm very proud of him. Both of our jobs involve weekend work on occasion as well as the usual Monday to Friday hours. DH has to provide his company with one weekend per month that he will be on call and he told me when this was so I made sure I was available as we have two young sons.
I told him I would be working the following Saturday. I wrote it down. I reiterated a few times in the week running up to it that I would be working from 7am until 1pm.
You know what's coming, don't you?
He informed me on the Thursday that he would be working from 6.30am until 9.30pm on Saturday. I asked what he intended to do about the boys as, you know, I would be working. He made some vague comments about me asking my DM to watch them. I told him she couldn't.
Friday night, he asked me 'was your boss okay about you cancelling going in tomorrow?'. I asked him what he was talking about, he repeated himself. I told him I absolutely had not told my boss I wasn't going in, that I would be going and that as he had changed his plans last minute it was up to him to organise alternative childcare. He threw a strop.
As it stands, I had cancelled. I didn't really have a choice and my boss wasn't particularly pleased about it. I let DH sweat it out until 6.30am on Saturday at which point he STILL didn't have a concrete plan (hadn't enquired with his DF, DAunt or DSis who all live on his way to work whether they could watch the boys - seemed to be hopeful that Nanny McPhee would knock on the door at a loose end).
So, long story short, AIBU to think that it isn't fair of DH to marginalise my career in favour of his own and that when he agrees to be on hand to parent OUR children to allow me to work the occasional unsociable shift, he should damn well make sure he does it?
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To think DH is taking the piss?
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NotSayingImBatman · 26/04/2016 14:45
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