Long story but DH does not work (retired sick due to accident at work). I have been self employed but currently cannot find work. 2 small children.
We constantly go around in circles on 2 things ; money and distribution of labour. DH is a spender, I am a saver. We have a joint account. I feel like we spend alot of money on cars, the house and house projects etc. However now I have no job we have cut back on holidays. We have not been on holiday for more than a year now and I feel I am pining for some exposure to the sun. I like holidays ;-)
The other point of grief (and I am sure this is a common one) is distribution of labour. DH cannot work so spends his time at home pottering around doing various projects. This leaves me to be in charge of the children etc. He does do the school run every other day(asking every day what time the school opens and whether they go today despite everything being written on a whiteboard...??) and makes tea. If the kids need looking after I need to do it... Yesterday we were out all day, he had wine at lunch so I drove home, then he sits for 2 hours in another room on the internet whilst I unpack, give the kids tea, clean shoes, tidy up, bath them and put them to bed. He barely bats an eyelid and I got the hump because he didnt even acknowledge it. Is this the best I can hope for in the 21st century??
I am just sick of it. I don't like to moan to my parents about it and I am sure my friends are bored of hearing about it. I have tried discussing it with him but he already thinks he does 'loads' and I am just moaning. If we argue he starts shouting straight away and tells me to 'fuck off'. I hate it.
Any tips other than 'move out'?
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uhoh1973 · 18/04/2016 09:03
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