To tell a friend to sit somewhere else

[Stickerrocks]

We've had a family season ticket for our football club for the last few years. We've taken DC's friend for the odd birthday treat & their family has tended to come along as well and go to a few other matches. Now it's season ticket renewal time & the other family are muttering about getting one for themselves.

AIBU to ask them not to get the free seats immediately next to us if they decide to go ahead? Although I'm friends with the mum & our DC are friends, we don't socialise together as families. We tend to take other family & friends with us regularly, which having them next to us would hinder. Most importantly, we love going to matches as a family, spending time with each other and chatting about stuff, and having them alongside us would cramp that. If I'm NBU, how can I say to go ahead and get a season ticket if you want to, just not next to us?

[PotteringAlong]

You can't! It's horrifically unreasonable!

[Pico2]

YANBU, but I don't know how you'd do it. It might be easier to move where you sit.

[MyKingdomForBrie]

You can't say that I don't think. Can you wait and see what seats they get then ask to move if you need to? Just tell them you got reallocated you're not sure why...

[LouLouLockets]

Well, they wouldn't talk to you again, so it would solve that problem

[fastdaytears]

I'm not sure they need your permission to get a season ticket or to get the seats next to you. I can't think of a way of telling them not to without causing a massive falling out.

They might choose to get their seats somewhere different though for the same reasons as you

[bornwithaplasticspoon]

They can sit where they like so YABU.

[icanteven]

There's simply no way of doing it without coming across as utterly awful.

With any luck, they are thinking exactly the same thing though. You could possibly email them to say something "a tip for when you book seats - we've notice that the best seats are XXXXX (i.e. miles away from you) - totally great view from there (or whatever)" but even that would be a bit weird.

[SavoyCabbage]

You would be unreasonable to say 'you can get a season ticket if you want to but not next to us' without expecting some sort of fall out. So it depends what matters to you I suppose.

Can you move yours next season without mentioning it?

[gamerchick]

You can't do that man!

Can you not let them get theirs first, find out their seat numbers and book somewhere else?

*no idea how it works

[cuntycowfacemonkey]

I would feel the same and currently have a very similar issue (more holiday related though) and have no idea how to politely put it!

[gamerchick]

Xpost

[SoupDragon]

Well, I guess that depends whether you are horrendously rude and entitled... If you are, sure go ahead. If you are a normal human being, don't.

[OSETmum]

No you really can't do that. What would you say?!

[RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie]

Are you for real?!!!

[xvxvxvxvxvxvxvxv]

No you can't. Unless you buy those ones too to keep them free, tough!

[Itinerary]

YABU

[Stickerrocks]

We automatically have to renew in the same place, so we can't move. It is very like the holiday situation, but for months at a time, festering away, as there is likely to be a big personality clash if they do book next to us. They're also the sort of people who would be picky if we booked extra seats at any time for other family members and would refuse to shuffle round, because they were in "their" seats, leaving an odd person on the end.

[wannabehippyandcrazycatlover]

You absolutely cannot tell them not to get the seats next to you without being seen as, to put it bluntly, a bit of a bellend.

However, I totally understand your reasons and so why don't you move seats and don't tell them?

[SmokingGun]

To be honest, I'd rather have someone sit next to me that a vaguely knew that were polite, etc than some random people. Group of 4 lads that sit in front of us are horrendous, always starting fights, etc. God knows how they still have their tickets. I'm desperately hoping they don't renew this year now we have dropped into the championship cos I do love my seats.

[ScarletForYa]

What?

[MajesticSeaFlapFlap]

You cant decide what seats some one else gets

[SmokingGun]

Just seen your last post, is it a premier league team? I have never ever heard of not being able to change your seats before? We get the choice every season, our normal seats are held for until a certain date if we want to stay put

[PoppieD]

How can they change their seats but you can't? (Genuinely confused!)

[Ciggaretteandsmirnoff]

Ha ha ha ha some people have the cheek of ten arses 😂😂😂😂😂

Oh please tell them op then teport straight back to us with what they say how they tell you to fuck off

Brilliant

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Do the seats next to you have your family's name on.
Didn't think so. Therefore.
YABU.
You sound like a 12 year old mean girl. You can't sit with us.