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AIBU?

To be a bit miffed at out of school club.

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DeepfriedPizza · 13/04/2016 20:46

Dd goes to out of school club 2 days a week whilst I work, before and after school, it's located in the school during term time and another location during holidays.

We are still on Easter break, we were away as a family last week so this week is the first holiday we have had to use it (we have used annual leave for other school holidays) we pay £23 per day for this.

First day this week Dh dropped her off and the out of school club leader said they were going on a trip to the beach could DH give Dd money for ice cream, fine, no problem. She had a great time.

Second day, DH dropped her off and leader said that they were going to soft play and could she have £4 for entry.

If DH had no cash on him, I don't know what would have happened. I'm a bit annoyed that we are told on the day of the trip of the cost. There would have been no option for DD to stay behind as all staff and children went.

I'm worried about summer holidays as we will have to use them, there are no other clubs.

AIBU to be annoyed at DH being put on the spot?

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LadyWithLapdog · 13/04/2016 20:48

They are small sums of money. I'm sure they'd have paid for your DD and asked for money next day. I think it's great they go to the trouble yo organise this. Imagine looking after so many kids at soft play.

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wheresthel1ght · 13/04/2016 20:58

Are you sure it wasn't in any of the information handed out and is still Lurking in the bottom of a school bag?

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llhj · 13/04/2016 20:59

Nice trips but crazy system. Don't they need to need a permission slip etc?

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 21:02

YNBU. I suppose they would have just taken her if your DH didn't have the money. I mean what else could they have done. Just left her at the out of school club.
I am concerned though that they don't tell you until last minute, surely these trips have to planned and risk assessed.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 21:02

I echo ll. Don't they need permission slips ect.

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CarefullyAirbrushedPotato · 13/04/2016 21:08

I think it's bad practice and I'd be pissed. Unless you've signed some kind of blanket permission for random (free) trips they need to be getting permission in advance, ideally in writing and giving you all relevant info. If there are paid for outings you need to be given an opt out for dcs to stay in the centre or masses of warning to arrange other provision, not everyone can afford extras and not everyone wants them.
It's not great of them to organise and supervise trips , it's their job! (as it was my job too, for many years)
I'd be super wary of whatever other slapdash practice was going on.

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zeeka · 13/04/2016 21:08

YANBU. £4 would need to be factored into some people's budgets, especially if they had several children there. I paid £25 per day for a club which included all activities.

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DeepfriedPizza · 13/04/2016 21:08

All trips were risk assessed, we were told and general permission slips were filled in on First day.
I thought it was because DD wasn't there last week and they may have been told of trips then but another parent who was dropping off her child same time as DH was also surprised.

I think the trips are great too but last week they went bowling and a few other activities, I am glad that DD only goes 2 days otherwise we would have had to pay out for other trips. They have passes for public transport so the beach was free.

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Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 21:12

I personally think this is nothing to pay on top for a great day out. Some people will complain about anything. Just make sure next time you have a couple of quid extra just in case.

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zeeka · 13/04/2016 21:18

You may think it's 'nothing', but you must realise that other people have different financial situations to you.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 21:23

Next time just make sure you have an extra couple of quid. Just in case.
Oh just like that. Hmm
Consider yourself told off by the dutchess of Mumsnet. For not being physic. Grin

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 21:24

And £4 is a fortune to some people.

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DeepfriedPizza · 13/04/2016 21:27

£4 is fine for us to afford for a one off but what would happen if it was 2 days a week over summer? We couldn't afford that and I'm sure many others couldn't either.

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DeepfriedPizza · 13/04/2016 21:29

Oh and if DH had an "extra couple of quid, just in case" it wouldn't have been enough as he needed £4

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tinyterrors · 13/04/2016 21:33

£4 on top of £23 is a lot for some people, especially those with more than one child. If that had been me in that position it would have cost me £16 extra for the trip to soft play, if there was something similar every day or even just three out of five days I couldn't afford it.

Holiday childcare costs a fortune as it is without extra costs for what are effectively compulsory trips on top. All costs should be factored into the daily rate for childcare.

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Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 21:33

Im a single parent and would find it.

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Therealyellowwiggle · 13/04/2016 21:34

That would be cheap for a day's childcare near me.

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MrsH1989 · 13/04/2016 21:39

£4 is a big amount when it is on top of £23 a day. It would be an extra £48 over the summer holidays which for many is almost a days wage.

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Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 21:45

A days wages? Are you not entitled to tax credits then MrsH. No one earns £48 a day and not have it topped up.

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bloodyteenagers · 13/04/2016 21:46

Good for you.
I am a single parent and extra costs not budgeted for would seriously fuck me over.

Op that's a terrible way to run a scheme. You should be given a timetable in advance highlighting activities and any costs incurred. That's what decent schemes do. It also gives time to families with a child with autism, to introduce what ever strategies are required. If it's all been risk assessed for every child that attends, then they had
Time to inform families prior to the end
Of term.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 21:46

Well that's fanfreekingtastic, Dutchess. But don't look down on and get off on others struggles. Its sick. !!
A bit more compassion. You'd be a narcissist. Remember Smug is karma's worse enemy. Oh and before you start with the I work for my money, so I do, so does op.

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Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 21:50

I'd be willing to pay an extra £4 when sending a child to a "holiday" camp assuming they were going on outings [confused}

Your posting was way over the top there Iliveinalighthouse or are you projecting?

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drivingmisspotty · 13/04/2016 21:51

We had similar at our holiday club and I must admit i was miffed too (nearly started a thread on here!) They stated on website they did 'trips' so I thought 'that's nice, maybe they go to the park or local (free) museum.' Turns out in the three days DD was in the club there were trips.on two days costing £15 in total. No option for her to stay in the club as all adults were going on the trips.

I found the money - not much choice really as didn't have any childcare back up and am also lucky enough that this didn't break the month's budget. DD had a fab time and it was lovely of the team to go to the trouble of arranging them. But I am also dreading the expense of the Summer and honestly don't think the trips are necessary. I would be quite happy for DD to just be in the club on her days, playing with the other kids and outdoors in playground and to save any trips for when I am not working so can go as well v jealous they saw Zootropolis without me

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 21:52

I personally think this is nothing to pay on top for a great day out. Some people will complain about anything. Just make sure next time you have a couple of quid extra just in case.

With a username such as Dutchess why am I not surprised as this wanky comment...

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 13/04/2016 21:56

So you expect minimum, or even average wage families to fork out an extra fiver (roughly) everyday on top of the £23 per day, per child and not be out of pocket?! Bullshit dutchess.

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