To dislike nicknames?

(44 Posts)
Amy214 Tue 12-Apr-16 21:51:47

I dont like nicknames, never had one myself and have never called anyone by their nickname. I just dont like them. Anyway recently dds dad has been calling her soph, instead of her full real name sophie. I just think her name is too nice to be shortened to soph and her gran has started calling her sophie bubbles? I havent said anything as its what they want but its annoying. Is it unreasonable to ask if they just call her sophie?

gamerchick Tue 12-Apr-16 21:57:12

I don't mind if people use affectionate variations of my kids names. It's nice that other family members have that closeness.

However you don't like it and you can ask but I would roll my eyes at you if you were my family member.

Amy214 Tue 12-Apr-16 22:00:00

They arent that close to her so i just think its weird. I dont mind names like billy for william but i dont like it when someones nickname is completely irrelevent to their real name so much so that people dont have a clue who your talking about

BertrandRussell Tue 12-Apr-16 22:02:07

But Sophie's a shortening!

Don't say anything. You can't control other people's relationships with your children.

Gwenci Tue 12-Apr-16 22:02:33

I like that different people have affectionate names for my DC.

I suppose you can ask other people not to call your DD anything but her full name but not sure your preference for no nickname should trump DD's dad's preference for an abbreviation.

PaulAnkaTheDog Tue 12-Apr-16 22:04:41

You can't tell her other parent not to give her a nickname. It's not on.

SheDoneAlreadyDoneHadHerses Tue 12-Apr-16 22:05:04

My DS has several nicknames depending on who's talking to him.

I call him a hugely extrapolated nickname, his dad calls him something else, his school friends something else, his sports mates something entirely different.

I don't mind - that's their relationship with him, not mine.

AllPizzasGreatAndSmall Tue 12-Apr-16 22:05:33

They arent that close to her so i just think its weird

He's her dad, I'd call that pretty close!

Euphemia Tue 12-Apr-16 22:12:53

Lol @ Sophie Bubbles! I love that!

It's for her to decide if she likes it or not, and to tell people if she doesn't. If she's not old enough to do that yet, no harm done.

PaulAnkaTheDog Tue 12-Apr-16 22:18:09

Sophie Bubbles/Soapy Bubbles/Trouble. Cute! I had a friend who was nicknamed it for those reasons, mischievous wee thing she was. smile

Purplepixiedust Tue 12-Apr-16 22:21:18

It is not unreasonable for you to dislike nicknames but it isn't on for you to try to control what other family members call her. Especially her dad and gran! Ultimately it is up to her. For now let it be. They are just familiar and affectionate. Most people use/don't mind them and often they kind of evolve. You don't always plan on them, they just happen!

ThroughThickAndThin01 Tue 12-Apr-16 22:23:42

You'd hate our family, no one is known by their given name.

You keep calling her Sophie. Let other people give her a nn. When she's old enough she can correct them if she wants to.

Amy214 Tue 12-Apr-16 22:24:13

Yes hes her dad but he doesnt have a close relationship with her. He barely sees her and when he does see her shes terrified, screaming if i even leave the room for a bathroom break. So i wouldnt call that a close and loving relationship. I havent said anything to them, i just dont like it i prefer not to call her anything other than sophie. She doesnt answer to them she just gives them a funny look hmm

RedToothBrush Tue 12-Apr-16 22:24:31

Its her dad.

What else, perfectly nice and normal, are you not going to allow because you don't like it?

Don't be so straight laced and po faced. Its affectionate. Do you have a problem with signs of affection?

ThroughThickAndThin01 Tue 12-Apr-16 22:24:37

Her dad isn't close to her confused

PaulAnkaTheDog Tue 12-Apr-16 22:26:38

Ummmmm, why are you allowing this contact if she literally screams at being left alone with him? Nicknames seem like a bizarre thing to fixate on when that's the case!

Only1scoop Tue 12-Apr-16 22:27:56

I love shortening everything

Nn are fine with me.

Amy214 Tue 12-Apr-16 22:28:48

No i dont have problems with affection im open to anything i just dont like nicknames. No he isnt close to her, we dont live together but we live in the same town about 5 mins apart. I gave up asking him to come and see her, now he only sees her when he wants even then hes preoccupied with something else.

Amy214 Tue 12-Apr-16 22:31:34

Because if i even say or hint that i want to stop contact i get threatened with 'i am taking you to court and i will make sure you never see her again' i know it will never happen but i always have a 'what if' in the back of my mind

whois Tue 12-Apr-16 22:32:03

A school girl friend had a younger sister called Victoria. Her mum used to get really pissy if you called her Vicky or vic or anything. I thought she was a bit mental to come wading into a game of tag to have a go st children for calling Victoria vic...

PaulAnkaTheDog Tue 12-Apr-16 22:34:42

Well perhaps getting advice on that rather than nicknames might be helpful? Because that really doesn't sound healthy for you or your daughter and I'm sure there are plenty of people here who could offer advice. smile

Only1scoop Tue 12-Apr-16 22:36:10

Whois

I remember a girl at school called Sarah Louise we used to call her Sar etc....

Her mum told her not to reply to anything but the whole ensemble....

I always chuckle when I hear similar now

BertrandRussell Tue 12-Apr-16 22:38:29

Oh for goodness sake!

BackInTheRealWorld Tue 12-Apr-16 22:39:43

Does your daughter actually mind? It's her name not yours.and yeah, yabu.

Amy214 Tue 12-Apr-16 22:40:31

I dont even know where to begin with asking for advice on that situation.

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