Very generously, my parents paid for the band and booze at my wedding 3 years ago - about £2,500. We didn't expect any money from them and my dad wanted to pay for something tangible rather than just giving cash so he chose band and booze (welcome/post ceremony drinks, table wine and champagne for toast - guests paid after the meal). We had a long engagement (3 years) to save up and pay for the wedding we wanted and were absolutely not expecting parental contributions. ILs gave a similar amount.
DSis is only 26 and has convinced herself that she's never getting married (single, out of a 4-year relationship 18 months ago) and her life is 'doomed'. She has been living with parents since break up so wants to 'demand' from my parents the exact amount that they gave me for my wedding so she can put a deposit down on her own place. I think she thinks they gave me a lot more than they actually did - a 2 bed flat where they live would be £320,000-£350,000 and I know she doesn't want to move area so £2,500 wouldn't be a significant difference to a deposit. I'm reticent to tell her the exact amount - she knows my (our) parents paid for the band and booze.
Is there a nice way of dealing with this? She absolutely won't listen to me when 'i tell her she's v. young - all her school friends are settled with children so she thinks she's left on the shelf. Also think the money thing might put my DParents in an awkward position.
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...to not tell DSis exactly how much parents contributed for my wedding?
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Blitzburgher · 04/04/2016 23:45
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