To make DH make all the coffees?

[StuRedman]

I drink A LOT of coffee, starting from the one DH brings me in bed at 6.30am. Obvs when he's at work during the day I make my own but when he's home I ask him to make all my drinks for me. It's just nicer to drink a hot drink that's been made for you.

For balance I do make him the odd cup of tea but then he only ever has one occasionally.

He's just grumbled slightly at making me one just now and I replied that it's the basic foundation of our marriage. There are certain things I always do for him, and his job is to keep me supplied with coffees.

AIBU?

[VimFuego101]

On the surface of it, you sound ridiculous. Do you work? Have kids? How are the household tasks divided up?

[Primaryteach87]

Depends if you do something he values for him. If you always make dinner for example then I'd say it's fair.

[Floggingmolly]

His job is to keep you supplied with coffees... You sound like a pampered princess to me. I'd be pouring the coffees over your head.

[ilovesooty]

Depends what you do for him I suppose but it sounds a bit spoilt to me.

[Marshy]

That would get right on my wick. Make your own flippin coffee!

[PPie10]

You sound a bit of a lazy lump.

[StuRedman]

I don't work due to ill health. We have three DC, two teens and a preschooler and we probably both do an equal amount of housework and childcare. I do 90% of the cooking though.

[Marshy]

.....and make him one while you're at it..

[StuRedman]

I just really like having hot drinks made for me. It feels more of a luxury than making it myself, and it sort of tastes nicer.

[Excited101]

You sound like my DFriend, I tell her off for being utterly ridiculous too.

[curren]

If dh expected me to 'always' do something as proof I loved him, it would get very old very quickly.

If dh is putting the kettle on he'll ask if I want one. If I want a drink I offer him one as well.

He clearly is pissed off with it and you don't care, so Yabu.

[StuRedman]

I'd better not tell you that sometimes I tap my nails on my empty cup or just say 'ding ding' to let him know I'd like a drink....

[MrsBertMacklin]

He's your husband, not your Butler! Goodness grief.

[WorraLiberty]

YABU to 'make' him do anything.

YANBU to ask him and he would not BU to say no, if he doesn't want to keep making your drinks.

[NeedACleverNN]

Yeah yabu

If he offers lovely

But if you want a drink you get it yourself

[Floggingmolly]

Just like summoning the butler. Well, if he's happy to do it you can't argue with that, I suppose. what do you do for him??

[Primaryteach87]

I'm obviously in the minority in thinking if you do 90% of cooking he can do 90% of hot drinks! I've clearly a slavedriver....

[Chillyegg]

Oooooo dear well um ok dp you do anything for your husband in return?

[flingingmelon]

I'm with you OP. I wouldn't dream of making my own coffee at home. DH does all of it.

In return I cook all of the food, clean the entire house and do the lions share of the childcare.

I presume you take on your fair share
of things?

[timeforabrewnow]

FFS - You are being unreasonable and just a teeny bit silly. Make it yerself.

[Zarah123]

What do you 'always do for him'?

[NoCapes]

DP makes probably 95% of my brews when he's around, it definitely tastes nicer when someone else makes one for you

However just tapping the cup or saying 'ding ding' to him is really fucking rude!

[WorraLiberty]

Yeah but didn't you type some big fuck off list of things your DH does in the house, as well as going out to work and working overtime etc?

So it's not like you do more than he does on an average day, is it?

[ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay]

You know coffee really isn't good for you, especially in large quantities- could it be a cause of your ill health or totally unrelated?

Otherwise yabu and aoubds a bit high maintenance. F you share the housework and childcare, when he is** at work all day what do you do?

[ilovesooty]

If you do an equal amount of housework and childcare and he goes to work as well I don't think it would hurt you to make your own coffee.