To wonder if people seem to prefer it when girls are born than boys

[waterunderthebridge]

Just wondering as based on my experiences there seems to be more excitement and enthusiasms for girls. I could be wrong.

[sooperdooper]

Nope, not noticed that at all

[BrandNewAndImproved]

No in fact the opposite. I had a girl then a boy and everyone said oh what a shame it wasn't the other way round for him to protect her.

[PPie10]

Yanbu I've noticed this too.

[Sparklingbrook]

No I had two boys and there was much excitement both times. Not sure what you mean OP.

[ElsaAintAsColdAsMe]

I've had girls and boys and didn't notice more enthusiasm for either.

I have known a few families would prefer to have a certain sex and act excited/disappointed according to their preference, but I'd say its about even as to whether they would prefer a girl or boy.

[ollieplimsoles]

I have noticed this tbh. But only because there are a lot of boys in dh's family. Everyone was hoping for a girl when his cousin got pregnant (including her) but she had a boy, then dd came along and they were all crazy over it.

My sister and her husband were also obsessed with having a girl. They bought a book on natural sex determination in conception, and were trying all these weird things to get a girl!

[rosieliveson1]

No, I don't think so in general. There are mainly boys (2 girls out of 13 children) in my family so a girl would get quite a fuss!

[waterunderthebridge]

You don't have to answer sparkling.

I'd try to get the opposite sex to the one I had, don't think that's weird really.

[AllPowerfulLizardPerson]

Some people do, some don't. IME most people react much the same whatever the sex.

But it must be possible for some people to prefer one sex child so strongly that they forget all manners and actually say so.

[Sparklingbrook]

You don't have to answer sparkling.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

There does seem to be a preference for girls currently, in the UK. This makes it much out of step with its own social history and the rest of the world at present. World wide male children (and adults) are by far more highly prized than female, always have been.

[Ploppymoodypants]

Just my observation, and not intended to be a sweeping generalisation by any means, but...

I found that most people assumed my DH would want a boy and even had quite a few ask me and/or him quite openly if he was disappointed to be having a girl ! We were both a bit 😕.

However we were both massively gender biased in terms of really wanting a girl ( can't explain why and we realise we are jolly lucky to have any child and would love a boy just as much for the person he would be. Just really wanted a girl though) and so I always worry I hide my disappointment badly when friends tell me they are expecting a boy or have just had one. For some reason I just can't summon up the same level of excitement for them as I would if it was a girl. Even for the people who want boys. I do really try though so I really hope no one has noticed, and obviously I realise I am being massively unreasonable, I know lots of lovely boys. It is just such a gut reaction for me though.

[Witchend]

Not at all. A few people have strong preferences but in this country I'd say it's fairly even both ways.

[waterunderthebridge]

I am the same Ploppy, and don't know why!

[targaryen]

My mil and her children are all for boys. Her son was gutted at the scan when the sonographer announced it was a girl
I've had both and have found people excited by both.
I remember an old lady saying "didn't i do well, having one of each" when out with my new born daughter and older son.

[ollieplimsoles]

I'd try and get the opposite sex to the one I had

[Ploppymoodypants]

Oh water I am sort of relieved to hear someone else say that. It's so irrational and I don't know why. I hate myself for it but it's such an instinct 🙁

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I have 3 boys.

Lots of happy excitement every time.

[curren]

I got excitement and disappointment from different people, both time I was pregnant.

Dh got asked if he was disappointed we were having a girl the first time round.

When I was pg with Ds, I got. Oh that's a shame. 2 girls would have been so nice. Who will your dd play with? That's sort of shit.

Sil actually asked me if I was angry with her because she was having a boy and my first was girl. Apparantly it's a bit disappointing having a girl first.

[drspouse]

More people want to adopt girls because they think they will be less trouble, less likely to have behaviour problems etc.

[MrsS1990]

How can you try to get the opposite sex
In my family we were overloaded with girls so it was a huge excitement when I had a little boy.

[ScarletForYa]

I think so. It used to be the other way around, boys were favoured.

[bingisthebest]

Yeah. I've always thought this too. Not sure why.

[waterunderthebridge]

It's to do when you have sex apparently :)

[BirthdayBetty]

DP was asked if he was disappointed he didn't have a son