Ok so I have a younger brother and we've always got on well, except for the last 4-5 years, we've kind of drifted apart, gone for long periods without speaking, only see each other at our mum's house during family get togethers etc.
I started feeling bad about this and recently (during the past 12 months) I've tried calling, texting, getting in touch and asking to meet up with him. He lives with our mum still, works full-time, goes out a lot with his mates and has a girlfriend.
Every single time I get in touch with him he makes me feel second best and won't commit to an arrangement. If I call him, half the time he won't answer and won't bother ringing me back. If I text him he'll make me wait days /weeks before even replying.
His replies are usually via texts and are always along the lines of "Well call me nearer the time and I'll see if I'm free." Or "I don't know, I might be busy that day, but I might not." Or "Well call me the day before and I'll tell you if I'm free or not."
Aibu to think this is bloody rude and making someone feel like they're nothing more than a fall back option?
He goes out a lot with his mates and he can't arrange one afternoon with his sister?
Yesterday was the last straw. I texted him back in February to say I had yesterday off, and would love to meet up. Of course he didn't reply for a week and when he did it was the standard non-committal "Maybe, ask me the day before."
I texted him Monday and asked, "are you free Friday then?" He replied no he'd arranged to just stay in as he had the day off (which is why I thought we could get together in the first place) and wanted to have a lazy day at home.
Last night on Facebook I saw that he'd been tagged in loads of pictures, he'd gone out for the day with 10 of his mates.
So I am obviously not an interesting option for him and he clearly can't be bothered with me can he?
My DH asks why I bother with him. I'm wondering that too right now?!
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to think I am not a bloody back-up plan?
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VioletTea · 02/04/2016 20:32
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