Hi all.
I'm getting married next year so plenty of time to worry about details I am just trying to get a relatively accurate budget together and don't know if myself and DF should pay for this or not.
I have six bridesmaids - I know that's a lot, they are all adult friends but we grew up together and out of our group two are married so far and we were all bridesmaids for them so it's a 'tradition'. I moved away from our home town for work and live in a city three hours away.
Obviously myself and DF will be paying for their BM dresses (just so you have the whole picture) and presents for them on the day. We fully agree if we ask someone to be involved in our wedding they shouldn't incur costs for this.
However - should we offer to pay for their hotel rooms to come to the wedding? I was thinking we should pay for the night before the wedding and they could pay for the night of the wedding. But they will all be with boyfriends/ partners so we would be paying for them too and although the hotel is reasonable it would add up to about £720 for all of them for a room for one night.
My best friend (in the group) was married last year and the same group of us were bridesmaids and as part of their package they had accommodation for the bridal party the night before, we then all paid in excess of £200 for a room for the night of the wedding. (It was one of those deals where they had hired out the venue and needed to fill the rooms. Also just to clarify I was happy to do that.) The rooms in the hotel we will be staying in are £120 per night.
Some of my BMs really don't have a lot of money. At the wedding there will be a paid for bar so when at the event they won't need to pay for anything.
AIBU to not offer to pay for any of their accommodation?
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WastingTime123 · 02/04/2016 15:35
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