to miss this party?

[BrittJ]

My DH's grandparents are having a little gathering at their house tonight to celebrate their wedding anniversary. DH's aunt is organising it.

I have Crohn's disease and I've been really unwell this past couple of weeks, I don't like to be away from the bathroom for too long and I've passed out a couple of times - all this is being investigated and I had blood tests earlier this week which shows raised CA 125 so I'm worrying about that, too. I also have conjunctivitis.

The party doesn't start until 7, and as DH won't get there until at least 8 as he's having to go straight from work, so it's not like we could just pop our heads in. The problem is, if I don't go DD can't go as I need to take her. DD doesn't mind and DH said that he'll go tonight and then take DD to see them tomorrow afternoon.

BUT, I'm a bit scared of DH's aunt who is not the most sympathetic of people! She's quite stern and has told me how disappointed everyone will be if DD (6) is not there, but nobody else can take her because of her own health problems.

I just don't think I'll manage and I'm worried about being stuck in the bathroom at a party. 😞

[Lilaclily]

If dh and do are happy I'd ignore everyone else's opinion and continue with your plan

[Sandbrook]

It's a family decision and you, your DH and DD are all happy with it.
Stick to your guns and stay home.
Hope you feel better soon

[Spandexpants007]

Text them all now. 'Ive been ill so won't be able to make it tonight sadly. If anyone wants to take DD along that's fine. Give me a buzz'

[Oogle]

YANBU. You sound really unwell and you need to stay at home.

I hope you feel better soon x

[PPie10]

Yanbu, if your DD and Dh don't mind then that's all you need to worry about. Dh is taking her tomorrow so the gps will get to see her.

[Itinerary]

No, don't go. DH's aunt will just have to accept it.

[Osolea]

Your dd isn't a showpiece that's there to provide entertainment for relatives at a family gathering. If people are more disappointed that your dd isn't there than they are sorry that you're ill, then they really aren't worth making the effort for.