AIBU to want my husband to stop doing this???

[Pennyformythoughts]

This is something I have put up with for years...my husband regularly masterbates while I'm asleep in bed with him. This is not something that would really bother me too much, but he leaves stains on the bedding and subsequently the mattress. We've recently had a new bed and mattress and I don't want it to get another hideous yellow stain! Yes I have got a mattress protector but it can only do so much. A handful of times his masterbating has woken me in the night.

Most of the time I ignore it, but a few times I have got cross and snapped. He says he does it because sometimes he can't sleep and it's his way of helping him nod off. Like I say, I wouldn't be bothered if not for the stains. I have told him I don't want our new mattress ruining and he said sorry but he still does it. I think it's become a 'thing' with him, he can't sleep therefore his answer is a good tug. I admit a few times I myself have pleasures myself in order to relax enough to drift off.

We do have a decent sex life and we're both adventurous. He is a lovely man in every way and I love him very much. We have been married nearly 10 years. I am pregnant at the moment and really off sex because I've been feeling so sick and ill. He never pesters for sex, he always lets me come to him if I'm feeling randy as he says he is always up for it so just to give him a wink. I feel guilty for us not having had sex for a while and I'm sure he's masterbating every night. What should I do? Should I put up with it? Should I say something? I don't want to be nasty.

[ohmywhatamisaying]

Should you say something? Yes. Ask him to go to the bathroom to do that as he is soiling your mattress with his body fluids.

If you want to meet him half way, get him to buy a mattress cover, but seriously, he's a human being, not a dog in heat who can't control itself.

Failing all of that, get a bucket of cold water handy by the bed.

[3littlefrogs]

I don't think I would feel comfortable with that every night TBH, but, on a purely practical note, could he not take a small towel into bed with him?

I would be fed up if the bedding was getting stained all the time.

[wigglebum84]

Get him a towel and have 'wank cloth' stitched on it. What a dirty shit he is.

[ohmywhatamisaying]

Get him a towel and have 'wank cloth' stitched on it.

[magicstar1]

So he just cums on the bed and goes to sleep? Yuk! Tell him to use a cloth / sock / tissue or something. He's a dirtbird

[missbishi]

Does he not have a box of "mansize" tissues at his disposal? Perhaps a penis beaker to give it a quick rinse?

Seriously though, YAdefinitelyNBU. You'll have enough to do with a new baby, without having to change spunky sheets as well. He should indulge himself elsewhere.

[GreyAndGoldInTheMeadow]

Once I was horrified to be woken to the bed shaking. Not ever having been in the situation before I didn't know whether to leave him to it or say something to go do it somewhere else. Just as the shaking seemed to be reaching its vigours climax I realised it was the dog scratching his ear at the end of the bed!

If you don't mind dh doing it OP I'd suggest getting him a separate towel.

[RoganJosh]

We have a waterproof mattress protector on our bed (in case of children weeing or being sick). That would get around the staining issue.

[Roseberrry]

He needs to get himself a wanky hanky asap.

[Niknack]

Has he never heard of a "posh wank"?

[KeyboardMum]

Oh dear, your poor covers!

You can't really make him stop wanking, but maybe ask him to lay a towel down or get something to catch it?

[MrsHathaway]

I'd say he's absolutely entitled to masturbate as often as he likes since it isn't interfering with his ability/amenability to do the deed with you when you fancy it.

He is not entitled to soil the bed doing so. Filthy bastard. He should have grown out of that kind of behaviour in his teens. He gets a bedside bin and a box of Kleenex.

[ZenNudist]

Ok so practical tips include insisting he changes the sheets every time he jizzes on the bed. You can't sleep in jizzy sheets every day that's grim. Extra laundry task might make him more considerate and use a towel, tissue etc.

Then you also need to get waterproof sheets which are sufficient quality that they don't make you sweaty. I have them on the kids' beds and I'm sure you can get double ones. Plus a decent thick mattress topper.

[Cabawill]

I just can't get my head around sleeping on 7 nights worth of jizzy sheets (assuming you change your bedcovers weekly)

[Theoretician]

On Amazon you can buy a box of 144 condoms for about £18. That works out at about 12.5p per wank.

[ThereIsIron]

Tell him he needs a wank sock

[ThereIsIron]

Tell him he needs a wank sock

[loopylou6]

Tell him to jizz in a jonny

[OnlyLovers]

What's a posh wank?

[ClarenceTheLion]

Keep a box of tissues on his bedside table. And if you feel like it, write For My Wanker on the box.

[GiveMyHeadPeaceffs]

[Roseberrry]

Posh wanks are no fun though, I don't think that's fair.
I don't think he is bu to wank but it would be polite of him to either do it somewhere else or to tidy up after himself.

[RubbleBubble00]

omg that's grim.

[GiveMyHeadPeaceffs]

Posted too soon!

It's a bit much expecting you to sleep on grotty sheets! Yuck! Definitely give him laundry duties and make him change the sheets every morning, that'll make him take it elsewhere!