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to have forgotten about the bricks?

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MrsDeathOfRats · 29/03/2016 14:18

All over the living room floor!

Basically, 18 month DS is teething. He's pushing out 4 teeth all together and he is NOT happy with it. Full on head old, snot and dribble everywhere. Screaming, hitting, kicking, biting, yelling bad tempered little bugger.
He is not sleeping at night. Just crying and struggling all night long. Which means I'm not. Been averaging 3-4 hours broken sleep a night recently.

DS upended the mega block box in a tantrum earlier and I took him to nap before picking them all up.
While I settled him (he is taking some work at present, lots of comforting) I felt exhausted so I napped aswell.

DP has come home and gone off about the bricks. Saying it's unfair he should work all day and come home to mess which he has to clear up cos I wanted to nap...

WIBU to nap instead of clearing up first?
I never even thought about the bricks! I'm on my knees with sleep deprivation, all I thought about was an opportunity to catch an hours sleep!

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RumbleMum · 29/03/2016 14:22

Good God, of course YANBU! Your DP is being v U. I don't need to elaborate, I don't think.

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StuRedman · 29/03/2016 14:22

Of course you're not being unreasonable. Is he usually such a dick?

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waffilyversati1e · 29/03/2016 14:24

tell him 1965 called, they want their sexist attitude back. Ooh and if he gets home at this time of day is that working all day? what does he do?

My OH can be a grumpy arse when he gets home (he is out from 7am until around 7pm) but we have a mutual understanding that if he doesnt want toys on the floor he picks them up (usually we favour the side swipe thus pushing all toys to one side until we can be arsed to deal with it)

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MrsDeathOfRats · 29/03/2016 14:28

He starts work at 4.30am so I get that he is also tired.

He saw me and DS at 3.15 when he got up this morning. He knows I didn't get back to sleep til 6am and then Dd woke at 7. So after dropping her at nursery and being home with DS I just took the oppoutunity!!

Glad im not being U!

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JolieColombe · 29/03/2016 14:30

I'd tell him he's welcome to do each and every night waking and then you'll be awake enough to pick up toys during the day. He doesn't like this then he can STFU.

YANBU.

I may be slightly inclined to overreact as DD2 had me up half the night though, so currently it's a subject close to my heart!

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mogloveseggs · 29/03/2016 14:33

You are definitely not bu. Mega blocks can wait. If he's that bothered let him clear them up (I'd leave them until he does just to be petty but that's just me ). Hope the teeth come through soon.

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LeanneBattersby · 29/03/2016 14:33

WTF does he think is going to happen if there are some bricks on the floor? You should see the state of my house when my husband gets home from work. I have three boys under 6. We all tidy it together between tea and bed. If we can be arsed. Sometimes we just leave it. The sky has not yet fallen in.

If my husband said anything to me about the state of the place I don't know how I would react. It wouldn't be pretty though.

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Flashbangandgone · 29/03/2016 16:12

Ffs... He is being unreasonable to expect to come home to a spotless house with a teething 18 mo!

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ExpandingRoundTheMiddle · 29/03/2016 16:17

If he thinks a tidy floor is more important than you catching up on sleep, he's a fucking twat got his priorities all wrong.

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Floggingmolly · 29/03/2016 16:18

He didn't "have to clear up" though, did he? Hasn't he ever seen kids toys on the floor before?? Of course if you've managed to get your child to 18 months without any evidence of a child actually living in the house, that could probably explain why it's such a shock to him.
Would you have rushed to clean up before he came in if you hadn't fallen asleep? That could be the problem.

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MrsDeathOfRats · 29/03/2016 18:08

No, I don't do a tidy up prior to him coming home. If it's tidy it's tidy, if it's mayhem it's mayhem.

But his issue is that I wasn't playing/cooking/entertaining/cleaning/out. I was asleep. I had just 'abandoned' the flat and left it in a tip so I could sleep (assuming this seems lazy)

And no he doesn't have to pick them up but he hates mess. He insisted we have an entire fucking wall of cupboards in the living room so that once the kids are in bed he can close all the doors and there is no visible evidence of them. Personally toys and stuff being visible doesn't bother me at all. These years won't last long!