Ok so I'm a second time mum - you would think that people would just let me get on with it but no!
I have a 4 month old who is ebf and admittedly not a great sleeper up quite a lot at night.
For the past few weeks my mum, MIL and random friends have all told me to switch to formula because it will make him sleep better. I appreciate that they want to help me out but I've politely declined each time and they keep bringing it up EVERY TIME I see them 
Now a lot of my family are saying that I should start wearing him early to help with his sleeping! In their day it was 3 months when you stated weaning! My MIL tried to give him some yogurt so I had to get tough and she was a bit taken aback when I said no and made a mad dash for the spoon of yogurt she was about to give him!
They just don't understand that I am just trying to do the best for my son - and these comments are undermining my confidence as a mum. 
Has anyone else had this?
AIBU?
AIBU to be sick and tired of people telling me what to do with my baby???
MOB247 · 24/03/2016 13:41
Unfortunately the more you share, the more opinions you will be offered to 'fix' your problem.
My advice? Lie 
Say he slept through. Say he feeds the magical 4 hour intervals. The more you share the more judgements you get.
Other than that, tell them you are happy and so is baby so no need to fix what isn't broken.
I would have gone mental at your MIL for feeding yoghurt and dictating weaning! Those situations will need a tough response. Others might just need some little porky pies to keep things fluffy 
The problem is, it isn't really about any "problem". It's about people wanting to feel their own parenting actions were right, and that their experience means they know best. You see it on the threads here all the time, too.
You are doing the right thing - this is about best current evidence for your child's health and they are wrong according to that best current evidence. They have no right at all to ignore you and try to feed anyway and you are completely right to stand up for what you are doing.
TBH a lot of parenting involves the uncomfortable saying of things people don't like hearing. One of mine has additional needs, and it's horrible having to be "that" parent and push for extra help from limited school budgets, or argue he shouldn't have to do something other kids all do, or, or, or... it's no easier now. But knowing your baby and child cannot fight their own corner and rely on you to do it does help IME. And you really are doing what is, as far as we can know, the very best for your baby. So your parenting confidence is justified and they should bog off. 
I'm a bit worried about this as the advice has already started...I'm due mid April.
Conveniently I have a tonne of early education qualifications, so can rebuff most things with 'actually recent evidence is that /nhs guidelines state...' But obviously the problem is then that I sound like a massive smug twit 
It doesn't stop . I had my DM on and on at me to "get that baby into a routine", and to make sure she had a proper bedtime. As she was my 5th and DM only had 2 I could just calmly say "I know what I'm doing, thanks".
But the first one we had weeks of hell trying to put her down when she just wanted to be held .
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I had this from several people but especially my Nan.
She hated that I was ebf for some reason and every time I saw her would ask if I'd put him onto a bottle yet and why not. Then it was why wasn't I weaning him, and how ridiculous the 6 month advice was.
DS was 91st percentile born but dropped to 7th over several months, although didn't lose weight, just was very slow to put it on. Health visitor and Dr weren't concerned as he was feeding well, was very active and meeting all milestones.
But you can imagine this just fuelled her fire, she was convinced I was starving him and would tell anyone who would listen this was the case and it was why he was such a bad sleeper. It got to the stage that I avoided going to visit
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