to be furious my mother allowed this to go on?

(8 Posts)
LittleGirlAlllGrownUp Mon 21-Mar-16 13:47:16

Have a now teenage DD which is why I am overthinking about this now.

My older sister married when she was 18 and I was 10 (her husband was early twenties). Her husband came from a very wealthy family and my family were quite overawed at this.

He was a filthy pervert who used to put his hand out when I sat down in a chair so he could grab my bum and would make references to my 'fried egg' breasts and having my 'cherry popped'. He often used to offer to drive me around as he liked to show off his expensive car and would tell me to sit up front. He saw my disgusted expressions as hilarious. My sister would get pissed off him when he made crude remarks to her but never pulled him up on stuff he said to me, or the putting the hand out etc, from what I can remember.

I remember one time when he was talking to my stepfather, he made reference to me having to be 'broken in'. I would have been around 12 then (remembering where we lived at that time) and remember wondering why he was comparing me to a horse. Stepfather laughed I think.

My mother was aware of this and would get a bit cross about it but she never DID anything about it iykwim.

My sister later found out he had been cheating on her for 3 years, let him screw her over with money and divorce her so he is not part of the family anymore.

The thought of my DD being in that situation gives me the rage. AIBU to quite disgusted that he was able to behave like that unchallenged by either my sister or my mother?

WonderingAspie Mon 21-Mar-16 13:52:42

That is disgusting. It sounds like they allowed their favourable impressions of his wealth override their need to keep you safe from this filth.

I'd actually ask them now why they allowed it. I don't think I'd be able to help myself.

McPheeNicks Mon 21-Mar-16 16:58:25

YANBU, definitely.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Mon 21-Mar-16 17:50:34

You're not being unreasonable. Your mum and your elder sister were supposed to be your protectors, and your step father laughing, well I'm sorry but he's as bad as him.
Touching you on your bottom. That is assault. The disgusting specimen. He aught to be jailed. Who else has be did these horrendous things to, because. I guarantee it won't just have been you.
flowers

MintyBojingles Mon 21-Mar-16 17:52:55

YANBU. That's horrid. They should have intervened

Soggybottomnighmareband Mon 21-Mar-16 17:54:19

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That is really shitty, in so many ways.

TremoloGreen Mon 21-Mar-16 17:59:05

I'm sorry. It's not you, that is utterly horrible. Can you ask them why? You will have to be prepared for them to minimise it to assuage their guilt I suppose.

99percentchocolate Mon 21-Mar-16 18:26:27

That is awful, I'm so sorry. flowers

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