Dp says I'm very dismissive when we're chatting but I think he just waffles on so much that by the end I don't care.
Example he's watching fast and furious 6 this evening and he mentioned they must have a large car budget I said they probably get them for free in return for advertising because alot of car heads watch the show. He then went on to tell me about when he was a teenager and hanging out with friends the group that he had were into cars and that when they got together they'd watch fast and furious and he wasnt into cars but they were and blah blah blah blah.
I don't care about that we've been together 10 years I've heard most of his stories before. Aibu he also repeats himself during conversations it's hard to explain but very annoying. Of course I'm dismissive at the end of it.
AIBU?
I'm oh so dismissive
Standingonmytippytoes · 19/03/2016 22:33
There's a song I used to listen to which basically said "will you still love me when my stories have all been told"
I guess we know your answer 
I used to have a boyfriend like that and just couldn't help telling him to STFU 
It didn't go down particularly well I have to say.
But if they're ignoring all the signs that they've moved away from conversation (taking turns to talk/listen) and into the realms of lecturing or talking at you for the last 20/30 odd minutes, then you'd be a mug to just sit there night after night pretending to be interested and frustrated at the lack of input.
Has he got worse over the 10 years you've been together or has he always been like that OP?
worraliberty
I am your oh OP. I tell the same stories over and over & im not even senile (honest)
Maybe encourage him to meet up with old mates & reconnect with the people he's obviously reminiscing about. It'll get him out of the house out of your way & give him someone who might actually be interested.
I'm not anyfucker I'm a right cow. I wish I wasn't. 
It's just I was hoping the conversation would segway into I don't know, I'd of taken anything over a conversation about his pot smoking days which I hear about all the bloody time. Or the gym I'm so sick of hearing about the gym
I sometimes rabbit on to DH while he nods and even sometimes makes eye contact only to find that he hasn't been listening. When he realises I'm at the end he'll ask "What?" and I don't know how far back to go because I don't know at what point he stopped listening 
So, say if the story was "I was walking the dogs and I bumped into Sarah who told me that her sister Sally had her triplets last week. Two girls and a boy. She asked us to pop round at the weekend. I said we would, is that okay with you?" Then he'll realise I've finished and blink and ask me "What? I'm sorry, I didn't get that." So I then repeat the story in ass order because I don't know when he zoned out!
"I said we'd pop round. To see Sarah's sister Sally. She had the triplets last week. Two girls, one boy. I ran into Sarah when I was walking the dogs."
Yeah, I know it's not exactly a riveting story but a) he's my husband, he can handle the odd boring story b) I pretend to be interested in his boring stories and c) he makes it seem like he's listening!
totally agree with you on boring gym stories too
It's not about whether the OP has a sparking wit and can captivate her audience whenever she's talking Flibbert, it's the problem with her DH knowing full well that he's talking about something she's not got the slightest interest in but ploughing on regardless because he thinks she should listen whenever he speaks, and for however long he chooses to speak for.
If he was talking about a problem he had at work or something then it'd be a bit shit to complain about it when she really wanted to talk about GBBO, but the OP has a choice in what she wants to think about doesn't she? And he's forcing her to think about shit films and shit cars!
That can't be right.
Poor OP 
I wish my Dh would talk more. I talk lots about different things, from day to day stuff, news, family, past stories he may not have heard etc, I don't get much back. I would love those sorts of conversations, but somehow Dh is non plussed about it.
I must mention, that his df (fil) is a ditherer when it comes to telling stories, and he takes forever to get to the point.
Perhaps he's zoned out
I know Dh doesn't always listen to me - he'll say you never told me that! And I know I did, he just probably thought I was chatting away about nothing and zoned out.
Equally, he will start talking about something that I'm totally uninterested in - like the bloody money markets and high frequency trading - and I'll just say "skip to the end..."
Last night I was reading him IDS's resignation letter, and he just said, I'm not listening, I'm watching this' I was We really are quite rude to each other sometimes. But I luffs him, and 90% of the time we engage with other and have great conversations.
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under I tried using that once oh it caused an almighty shouting match conversation.
Oh dear. I think I agree with Agent then 
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