Sports Relief and PND

(6 Posts)
Bogeyface Sat 19-Mar-16 01:03:53

I fully support and appreciate what they are trying to do with regards PND.

Stacey from EE was on, talking about her storyline about PPS, she said that women are reluctant to come forward out of fear of losing their babies and because they feel under pressure to feel a certain way. Then she said "Help us to help mums, dads .... at what should be the happiest time of their lives"

And there is the pressure! It should be, but even with the best help in the world, for some women it isnt. So why say that? It reinforces the very message that HCPs helping women with PND/PPS are fighting against!

AIBU to think that whoever wrote that link should have really looked at what they were saying and taken that line "should be the happiest time of their lives" out? It implies a level of blame, and that is exactly what PND sufferers are feeling, that its their fault.

Fratelli Sat 19-Mar-16 01:44:56

I totally see your point but I really believe it was not intended to come across that way.

Bogeyface Sat 19-Mar-16 02:27:20

I dont think it was intended to sound like that, but if a woman who was struggling saw that then all she would hear is "What should be the happiest time,...". I know I did when I was ill. If me than had heard that then I wouldnt have heard "talk to your GP or Health Visitor because they can help", I would have heard "what should be the happiest time in their lives..." and thought "But it isnt because I am a bad mother"

JuxtapositionRecords Sat 19-Mar-16 06:42:42

I see what you mean. That phrase always gets wheeled out when talking about PND. It's the tip of the iceberg to be honest - it's appalling the lack of understanding and support we have for PND in this country. I'm feeling pretty angry about it lately!

MandMand Sat 19-Mar-16 07:21:06

I understand what you mean. I remember in the first few days and weeks after my first child was born, the midwives and Heath Visitors would all say "Relax and enjoy your baby!" to me as they was leaving. I would be left there feeling like I was trapped in hell, and nobody seemed to understand. How could anything I was experiencing possibly be in any way relaxing or enjoyable? I was consumed with stress, anxiety, terror and pain. A more honest acknowledgement of how terribly, awfully hard those first few weeks with a newborn are would reduce the pressure on women to try to put a brave face on to the world and give an impression that they are coping, when inside they are dying.

Boredworkingmum020 Sat 19-Mar-16 07:28:14

I suffered from panic attacks and a firm of PTsd after the birth of my DC (both v nearly died). Tbh no one could say anything right at the time. At least they are trying to raise awareness

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