about dog jumping up

(80 Posts)
biscuitkumquat Fri 18-Mar-16 12:20:12

First foray into AIBU so please be gentle.

Was in Pets At Home this morning picking up bits for the cat, and hadn't really been aware before that pets were allowed in (it's a pet shop, makes sense), but there was a young girl with her dog, which was on it's lead, standing in front of me at the checkout.

Her dog jumped at me, not in an aggressive way, but because I couldn't move backwards out of it's way, I did a kind of sideways shuffle to try to get out of the way, because she couldn't stop him.

The parents of the girl came over and controlled the dog, and said, oh, he's just being friendly, he's just a puppy, and I said, oh no he hasn't hurt me at all, but he has made quite a mess of my coat (light grey & covered in dirty paw prints), and they just gave me a nervous smile, and it was their turn to be served.

I let them finish paying for their stuff, and smiled & said my coat's actually dry clean only, and I will have to get it cleaned. Again, nervous smile from both, but no offer to pay for it, then turned to leave. So, I had to say again, again with a smile, my coat's dry clean, and your dog has made an awful mess of it, I think you should offer to pay to clean it.

They were NOT HAPPY. Mum & daughter left, Dad then starts shouting at me, saying I have ruined his daughter's birthday present, and what do I expect in a pet shop, then stormed out.

I waited a bit, then followed him out & took a photograph of his car registration number. Went back in & assistant apologised & offered to get a cloth & some water to see if it would make a difference. it didn't

I'm not really sure if there's anything I can do, but AIBU to be pissed off that I was shouted at & now have to pay to clean my coat, all for a couple of packets of buggering Dreamies.

PinotEgregio Fri 18-Mar-16 12:22:23

YANBU. Dog owners are responsible for their dogs' behaviour.

tootiredtothink Fri 18-Mar-16 12:26:00

Yanbu. He should have offered to pay especially as the evidence was there for him to see. And totally out of order for him to shout at you. Knob !
No idea what you can do about it now though sadly.

PurpleDaisies Fri 18-Mar-16 12:27:46

Yanbu but as you say, I don't think there's anything you can do about it.

nmg85 Fri 18-Mar-16 12:34:07

As a dog owner I would say YANBU on this one. If a dog jumps up then an owner should have the control to move it away... If a kid can't then they need to not be holding the lead. Not sure what you can do about it though. Dog owners like that give the rest of us a bad name.

MartinaJ Fri 18-Mar-16 12:36:16

They need to pay. If they can't control a dog, they should be responsible for consequences.

Slowtrain2dawn Fri 18-Mar-16 12:47:51

Another dog owner saying YANBU!

Alexa444 Fri 18-Mar-16 12:49:09

Yanbu. They are responsible for thrir dogs behaviour

PinkPjamas Fri 18-Mar-16 12:51:23

YANBU. I have a puppy and in the transitional period where they're not yet trained to not jump up (amongst other things) you have to be really careful with control of them. I watch mine like a hawk but if she did jump up at someone (I accept nobody is perfect including me!) and caused a mess of their clothes I absolutely would pay for them to have it dry cleaned.

bollocksontheinternet Fri 18-Mar-16 12:52:51

Honestly in theory you're not being unreasonable I suppose but I would have been laughing.

Lockheart Fri 18-Mar-16 12:52:54

YANBU if it marked your coat but given it had been walking on a lino floor and presumably on a paved surface before that it's probably just dust that will brush off easily, rather than a thick coating of liquid mud that will need the attention of a dry cleaner. I'd go over the marks with a proper clothes brush before putting it in to be cleaned.

RockUnit Fri 18-Mar-16 13:02:36

YANBU.

"He's just being friendly" always seems to mean "my dog has jumped up and scared you or damaged your clothes, get used to it".

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Fri 18-Mar-16 13:07:54

YANBU. Dog owners are responsible for the behaviour of their dogs. Well done on calling them out about it.

Newes Fri 18-Mar-16 13:10:45

YABU. It's a pet shop, which welcomes dogs, some of which will be less well trained than others, being puppies. You are being very precious about your coat and I wouldn't have got angry with you. Just brushed you off, as you should be just brushing off the minor marks from your coat.

PageStillNotFound404 Fri 18-Mar-16 13:14:27

YANBU, from another dog owner. It's up to us to ensure our dogs don't make nuisances of themselves in public. If that had been me I would feel a) that I'd let my dog down by not paying attention to the situation and his excitement and b) apologetic towards you and responsible for paying for your dry cleaning.

MrsJayy Fri 18-Mar-16 13:16:27

Oh yanbu what a complete arse the dad was to you

ProbablyMe Fri 18-Mar-16 13:20:57

Yet another YANBU from a dog owner. I hate it when my dogs jump up at me or anyone and have trained the out of it. I would have been absolutely mortified and offered to pay for your cleaning.

SmellySourdough Fri 18-Mar-16 13:21:39

yanbu
if you could get hold of their name& address you mighf be able to invoice them (and go to small claims when they don't claim)

MrsJayy Fri 18-Mar-16 13:22:49

My dog is rude and can catch me out and jump up its annoying not friendly

bollocksontheinternet Fri 18-Mar-16 13:28:30

Small claims grin

biscuitkumquat Fri 18-Mar-16 13:33:05

I just couldn't work out if I was being a bit precious.

I'm not going to pursue it, I think I thought if he saw me taking a photograph of his number plate, it might be at the back of his mind that I might.

Most of the marks have come out, but there is one lovely dark splodge right on the front.

I think I would have been much less pissed off, if they had immediately apologised and offered to pay to get it cleaned, and we would have then gone into the "No, not at all", "I insist", "No, honestly".

SmellOfPythonInTheMorning Fri 18-Mar-16 13:33:15

YANBU. My dog jumps up on people because when he was little EVERYONE petted him and made a fuss of him even when I was trying to train him not to do it.

So now I keep him at a distance and if he ever soiled anyone's clothes I would offer to pay for the dry cleaning!

SmellOfPythonInTheMorning Fri 18-Mar-16 13:34:38

(OK, and because I was a crap trainer I admit sad)

RB68 Fri 18-Mar-16 13:57:43

Personally, mud dries and brushes off. If it stained and wouldn't come out with a good clothes brush then different story. But again I would challenge this as a) puppies generally are not walked in that sort of environment where they get that muddy until vaccinated and b) as someone said in a shop environment. You could also have kept your distance if you were that worried about it. It is a bit like going to the zoo and complaining about the smell.

I don't like being jumped up at and am still trying to train our dog not to do it - v stubborn chocolate lab/springer cross so not sure I will ever get it through to her, but I do understand that it is in the nature of dogs to want face to face contact and they do love people and that is why they do it. It is the nature of the animal and also the place where you were

RB68 Fri 18-Mar-16 13:59:20

but I would also say that he was unreasonable in the way that he reacted

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